Well, my father in law phoned 4days ago, to ask how I was and how the boys were. He was on the phone for 15seconds max. But at least he phoned. Ninjas wife phoned me and gave me some work. She actually spoke to me personally instead of texting me and without relaying it all through Craig, which she could easily have done. She and Craig also bought a bag full of stuff for myself and the boys and left me some money. I was really bowled over when Craig came up with it. Although she's still an active dub, and will still shun me, she has a good heart and I told her that. I really appreciate what her and Craig have done. All my other friends (non JWs) are still looking after us, and I appreciate them all so much.
My MIL came back from holiday yesterday. Matt came up to see the boys, and was sitting on the couch when Nan unexpectedly knocked on the door. She had popped in with presents for the boys and one for me. Nice. She came in and took a look at us all and assumed cos Matt was sitting there watching TV that he was back. When she asked him, he said "NO, I've got a flat".
Anyway she sat down with him and started showing him photos from her cruise on her digital camera and telling him all about the places she'd seen. They had an upbeat conversation about the chocolate sculptures she had photographed, (like the eiffel tower), and the ice scuptures she's seen. They then sat and had a discussion about the camera, and about how good or bad it was.
I just sat there...............! This is surrreal. Here it is, Matt has walked out on his family, and she is sitting on the couch talking a lot of BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, about stuff that doesnt matter. She was happy to talk funny stuff and stories to him about her holiday. Eh? What's worse ? Is it just me ? Not being a JW any more has caused her to have nothing to do with him, to not speak to him or ask how he is. But when she finds out he's not come back and has got a flat and wont be living with me or the boys, she sits down with him and has a cosy conversation ! ! ! !
Obviously, the latter is not worthy of being shunned. Anyway, I did feel really upset about it, I dont know why! Maybe its because this scenario wouldnt have happened if we were still together as a family doing everything family's do. Somebody help me out here ! Matt went away and Nan came and spoke to me for a while. She was very supportive, but I dont know if she will go out of her way to see me after today. We'll see.
The Mighty Paul and Anita, still nothing. Not a peep. Not a phone call. Not a text. Not even to the boys. Anita actually shunned me 2weeks ago and did it rather expertly when she almost brushed shoulders with me coming out of the library. I didn't have the energy as I was really low that day, but ususally I will find something to say. Oh Yes, they are having their gossip sessions with each other and with Nan, wanting to know what's happening and wanting to be kept up to date with the details. I always make sure that when I'm saying anything about my situation that the boys are the ones who are the focus of my conern. They are the main topic and I try hard not to say anything about myself or how I'm feeling. Even with this being the only info. she can pass on to Super Elder, they still haven't as much as tried to speak to the boys. Even with Leodhas having his own mobile phone, where they could contact him directly and not even have to speak to me at all, they haven't even attempted to do so.
I will not say what I want to say about that.....Cause I'll end up getting booted off this forum.
I've changed my mind. I'll be mild.................. S C U M !