hate the memorial meeting tonight (page 2)

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BurnTheShips

Why does the memorial have to be so long? It's about 45 minutes all in isn't it? That's ridiculous. Why can they just sing a song and pass the bread? I've got to sit through the lecture about not eating it unless you're specially anointed, and then the bit at the end trying to get irregular people to come along to the meetings... which everyone ignores anyway.

The entire ritual is a negation of life and an invitation to slavery. Don't go. Love yourself and stand for what you know is right. I know, easy for me to say. But this is the best thing for you.

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slimboyfat

Mark do you know my aunt? I just don't want any drama that's all.

She also said she expects to see me at the assembly next week too even though she knows how bad I feel at the moment.

Plus my wife says she doesn't want to go to the memorial without me. And if she doesn't go then her mum and gran will be upset. I don't want to upset her gran because she's a great lady and very old.

I think I will have to go. But it won't be easy. If I feel really bad I might leave in the middle.

slimboyfat

The entire ritual is a negation of life and an invitation to slavery. Don't go. Love yourself and stand for what you know is right. I know, easy for me to say. But this is the best thing for you.

I have no moral or spiritual objection to the memorial. It's just another religious observance that's all. It's very boring, but I could handle that, it's just that I feel so bad.

slimboyfat

If you're truely sick you should stay home, whether your aunt likes it or not.

I have got a chronic illness that is in a flare at the moment. Going to the meeting won't kill me, it will just be very unpleasant. I know people think I should make the effort, but they don't appreciate what it involves at the moment.

mrsjones5

Wow, Auntie has that much power over your life? I'm not putting you don't but I think that's amazing and all to familiar. I'm the daughter of a drama queen and I've learned that sometimes it's best for my sanity to remove my overly dramatic mother from my life at times. Kinda like a sabbatical. It also seem to calm my mother down too.

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mrsjones5

Slim, I totally understand. My hubby has a chronic illness and on the outside he doesn't look sick. Folks have a hard time believing that he is sick and sometimes do things that exacerbate his pain (we just stayed over a dear friend's house for a couple of days and he wouldn't stop being physical with hubby which increased hubby's pain - hubby had to be firm and stress that what he's going through is very real).

Folks believe what they want to believe. It's not your job to convince anyone, outside of your doctors, about the pain your going through. You take care of you ...your aunt will be ok.

cawshun

I am sorry your family is putting so much pressure on you when you don't feel well. Maybe if you get sick you could throw up right there in your seat next to your aunt and wife. I know that sounds ugly, but the demand they are putting on you is an ugly thing for them to do.

My grandson called me last night to let me know his baseball game had been moved from 5:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. and that he won't be able to play his game because of the memorial. I said, you sound very sad, are you sad you have to miss your game and he said yes in a VERY sad voice. I told him to put mom on the phone. I asked her ( his mom, my daughter) if she would like us to take him to his game while they go to the memorial, her response was: " NO! He has a lot of baseball games, he is NOT missing the memorial for one game ".

I felt like he wanted me to rescue him so he could go to his ball game. So sad.

avishai

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