hate the memorial meeting tonight

slimboyfat

I have to go to the memorial tonight but I hate it. I feel so bad today. I feek sick all the time and I nearly fainted this morning. I am so ill I think I will collapse if I go. But I am expected to go and I know people just don't believe I feel as bad as I do. They think I am exaggerating, but I feel so awful I have hardly been out of the house for weeks. If I don't go I think my aunt might fall out with me. She knows I am not well but she still thinks I should make the effort for the memorial. The elders already frown on me for being irregular, if I miss the memorial they will write me off or maybe try to cause us trouble I don't know. If I'm sick or collapse then they have to deal with it. Maybe I am wrong and they won't be like that at all, but it feels like it.

oompa

deeep breath slim....just tune it all out!....we can text each other during the memorial if you pm me!!...........oompa

slimboyfat

You're not in my time zone oompa but you could message me in the middle of the night if you like.

Why does the memorial have to be so long? It's about 45 minutes all in isn't it? That's ridiculous. Why can they just sing a song and pass the bread? I've got to sit through the lecture about not eating it unless you're specially anointed, and then the bit at the end trying to get irregular people to come along to the meetings... which everyone ignores anyway.

Has anyone else noticed that the meetings after the memorial are among the worst attended of the whole year? It doesn't seem to motivate people much. They seem to take the view that the memorial is an extra meeting so they get the next meeting off.

iknowall558

Give yourself something to look forward to when you come back home......good film , good food, good drink...perhaps all three. I Feel bad for you. This is my first time not going. Just remember its only for an hour or so then its all over. By this time next year you may be saying the same to someone else...

slimboyfat

I wouldn't mind going to the memorial if I was feeling okay. In fact it would be nice to see people I haven't seen for a while. I like many of them.

What I hate is that it seems I have to go to the memorial no matter how bad I feel. Only people over 90 or actually in hospital seem to be exempted. Otherwise there is no excuse for not going.

undercover

I can relate somewhat...

The first couple of ones I went to after going inactive were difficult, but over time I learned to not worry about it. You might get love bombed but not much else. The elders and MSs are so busy with everything else they don't have time to hound the irregular/inactive ones. And sitting through a dull propaganda talk for 45 minutes isn't too bad once you realize that there is absolutely nothing significant or holy about it.

But after a few years of going through the motions of just showing up, I'm getting more attention from family members this year. It has become a bit of a issue this year for some reason which has caused some 'discussions' to word it nicely. Before I could agree to go and it placated everyone. This year I've been getting more flak for it. During one 'discussion' I admitted that I didn't really care to go and didn't really believe it, so it was asked why bother going...which is a good point. I may not go but I don't know which is worse...to not go and to cause a bigger riff that could go on and on or to go and it'll all die down the next day. As the Memorial draws closer it has caused some anxiety for me...and now it's only a few hours away and I don't know if I'm going or if I'll be welcomed to go.

snowbird

JUST SAY NO!!!

The Universe will still stand.

I used to get sick before the meetings.

It's called Cognitive Dissonance.

The cure is QAM - Quit Attending Meetings!

Sylvia

passwordprotected

Slim, what's this about your aunt falling out with you if you don't go because you're ill? I realise you love your aunt more than your own sanity, but c'mon! If her affection for you is so delicately balanced, is it really worth your effort?

BurnTheShips

The great NoMore-ial. The great denial.

Has anyone else noticed that the meetings after the memorial are among the worst attended of the whole year? It doesn't seem to motivate people much. They seem to take the view that the memorial is an extra meeting so they get the next meeting off.

It is a horrid event. I literally feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it. I actually felt sick the last couple of years I went. People need time to recover. In their guts, a great many people must realize what this horrible thing is. I got called by an elder from the area I moved to a couple of days ago to go to the great "No." Ugh. They got my number.

You have my condolences. Those of us that get out forget how horrible it is for those that stay inside after learning the truth about the lie.

BTS

mrsjones5

If you're truely sick you should stay home, whether your aunt likes it or not.

hate the memorial meeting tonight

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