Lets get a clear definition of cyber cheating .... http://www.cyber-cheaters.com/
Cheating (noun) = Any sexual behavior, engaged in secretively with a person not one's spouse, that would make the spouse feel betrayed if discovered
If cyber-cheating 'doesn't count', then why are they trying to keep it a secret? This is really the question to ask both them and yourself. Do people really keep secret something that they feel is OK to do? I don't believe so - and neither should you.
What about emotional cheating ?
First, every individual has his or her own values, convictions and beliefs about how life best operates, and since couples are formed by individuals, they will also operate uniquely; no two couples will behave the same way or share the same rules. The challenge of all couples, then, is to decide their own rules and to engage in dialogue about what might or might not be considered "cheating." Of course, the essence of the solution here is communication. Are you talking with -- not to or at, but with -- each other about this situation? Have you had a talk about what your relationship defines as cheating? Clearly, that needs to happen first. Your husband may not be aware that you consider what he's doing to be cheating because he might have had a different set of beliefs about that form of communication (internet chatting, etc) going into your relationship.http://www.chinika.com/site3/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=121&Itemid=176
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