Edultery.....

by yknot 64 Replies latest members private

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  Satanus

  Rob
  
  'he will just use it to justify himself and his actions.'
  
  Would that be a sign that it's over, and she might as well get out?
  
  S
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  Robdar

  he will just use it to justify himself and his actions.'
  
  Would that be a sign that it's over, and she might as well get out?

  Possibly. People who need their egos stroked and blame others for their unhappiness can never be satisfied.
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  cameo-d

  So very sorry to hear this, Ynot. I thought the two of you just went off for a nice little vacation.

  Btw...how can a "friend" make such an evil mistake as to send the mail out to everybody in town?

  You need some other man friends to come over and clober him. Brute force is the only thing some men understand.

  I would so some psyco thriller stuff to let him know he better mind. Like what, you ask? Well I would start refering to the kitchen knife as "the bobbit" for one thing. "Honey, would you hand me the bobbit, please?" The what? "Oh, the knife, please." Just little "slip of the tongue stuff."....to start with.

  Then I would plan a "special evening". I would ask if he would like a little more 'adventure'. Then, maybe tie him up so you have his undivided attention. Make popcorn and tell him you have a 'special movie' for him. Then I would make him have no choice but sit through watching that old Farrah Fawcett movie "The Burning Bed" and I would play nochantly with flickeing a Bic lighter all through the movie.

  Feeling better now? Getting your power back?
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  sammielee24

  So - will you ever be able to trust him again?

  What happens if you want to take a mini vacation out of town to visit your friends or family and he stays behind? What happens if you had to work late or on opposite shifts to him? What would happen if you were in the hospital because of an injury and he was alone?

  If you don't trust him not to do it again, and you can't trust him to be alone because he might get bored and do it again - then effectively his actions have made you a prisoner and the question then becomes, are you willing to live in prison for the rest of your life in order to babysit your spouse?

  It's all about trust.

  BTW - I would be really cautious about a person 'accidentally' emailing mass messages of such a confidential nature. You did nothing wrong - his reasoning is pretty pathetic. He could have read a book, watched a movie, shot a game of pool, planned a romantic getaway for the two of you, cleaned out the oven - he could have done a lot of things to relieve boredom.

  sammieswife.
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  SPAZnik

  What's an ego stroke, why did he need one, did he find it online, and what happens the next time he needs one? Sounds like a bs excuse to me seeing as he explicitly asked for his NSA to be stroked and not his ego at all. At any rate, I've never met a guy that didn't dream of being king solomon. :O) But as queen bee I'd be royally insulted that he left me out, the bastard. *sigh* When will people learn that these kinds of sexperimentation decisions need to be keeping the main squeeze in the loop or it can spell political disaster especially for a contractual business arrangement such as a marriage. What an idiot. Let the floggings commence.
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  SPAZnik

  still chuckling here about bastard first and worldly second. good one.
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  SPAZnik

  Oh and one more thing. It's entirely up to you to decide how you want to respond to this, of course. The potential consequences in any number of plausible directions are yours to live with; to the best of my awareness, we only get one life story. I'm generally of the "you want no strings? you got no strings. see ya." variety of response. But that's me. And here I am, feeding myself grapes, with no significant other to bitch about. It has it's upsides. Though if I keep this up too much longer, I might completely forget how or why people even set out to put up with one another in the first place. Scoundrels. Oh, and for what it's worth, I'm sorry for any pain you may be experiencing in light of this revelation. I've heard it said that the truth sets you free and love conquers all and I've yet to see either of these proven wrong. Might be worth a bit of contemplation in times like this. What silly creatures we are.
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  Snoozy

  Can't you ban him from the computer? Fix it so only you can sign on? He apparently has no self control..

  Snoozy...
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  Awakened at Gilead

  @ Snoozy.. that does not work... the internet is too pervasive to limit people's control. There is something wrong with Yknot's relationship, and you are just suggesting that the symptom be treated instead of the illness.

  @ YKnot... sorry to hear this... I hope you guys can work this out. Perhaps some relationship therapy is in order?
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  sammielee24

  Can't you ban him from the computer? Fix it so only you can sign on? He apparently has no self control..

  Snoozy

  Doesn't that go back to trust? A grown man if he has so little control over a computer site, will simply use another method..cell phone access...a friends computer..and for all anybody knows, he might have phone numbers already used for contact...that big ugly trust head rears up and it's one of those things you either just believe or not. sammieswife.