by JimmyPage 16 Replies latest jw friends
All the committees I was on were all about sex... I helped DF about 5 people...
Robert7 makes a good point that DFing doesn't make poeple wake up.. that's why they come back groveling to be reinstated..
I was DFd/DAd, kicked out, whatever, for apostasy. But now, as the OP says of sex, hell yeah, bring it on!
I too have heard 80% are disfellowshipped for sexual reasons. I imagine that is correct. Most that disagree with the teachings just leave, without getting d/f or d/a.
If you look at the top right hand box at http://www.jwfacts.com/index_files/statistics.htm, it shows that the number going inactive each year is more than the net number disfellowshipped. I imagine a large number of these are people that no longer believe the teachings and drift away. If you take into consideration all that leave each year rather than just the number getting formal discipline, than the number of "apostates" would be equal to those invovled in sexual indiscretions.
I probably have a record for serving on committees. In the country I served in, almost every young person gets involved in something sexual. The married ones too, at least the husbands. I remember getting instructions for the circuit assembly that we needed to interview a long-time elder in our circuit who had a long, happy marriage. We had to borrow another elder from another circuit, because all the 43 elders in our circuit had either been unfaithful in the past, or had been married too recently. And since there are so few elders in each congregation, the CO often has to serve on the committee. Or find qualified brothers to do it. Sounds strange now.
But yes, where I served, most JC's are formed for sexual sins. I tried to be fair, or what I thought was fair. I never disfellowshipped young couples. I did disfellowship older brothers or sisters who took advantage of inexperienced ones. It's hard to be on a JC and be a missionary, because the local brothers tend to defer to your opinion.
I did serve on one where a brother was accused of murder though. Very, very interesting.
I will say though, that each JC is so different. You never know what the other elders are going to say. Some use the Flock book a lot, some ask to pray several times. Some have their own ways of being chairman. I always hated the ones who asked the person, "How would you feel if we disfellowshipped you?"
You never know what to expect from your fellow elders. Some love details, some don't. Some follow the guidelines, some don't. It's crazy how I thought it was all Holy Spirit.
Once the Branch told me to be "very careful" about disfellowshipping a brother in my circuit for smoking. So I took that to mean not to disfellowship him. Turns out he had bought land and donated it to build a Kingdom Hall, and then built himself a house on the same property. Problem with the title deed. What a mess. They finally met with him, the branch sent out reps, and they worked out a compromise.
I heard they disfellowshipped him a year later.
BF
Are most JWs really disfellowshipped for sexual reasons?
Could be. Because I just walked away and so did my wife. She puts up X mass lights and celebrates all the hollidays.
Neither of us are disfelloshiped.
The friends all talk to us when they see us at home depot and family get togethers.
My mother, brother and sister disassociated themselves because they wanted the world and JW's to know they didnt agree with the way they think.
I dont agree with the way the JW's think either but didnt fall into their trap of making it official and documented.
So I can go to family get togethers and no one treats me like I have leprosy.
Which is really more of a consideration for my wife and her family. All my family are earth people now.
I think a lot go apostate, then get liberal in their attitudes, then fornicate, then get the axe because they don't have the proper humble demeanor.
In my eleven years "sexual immorality" was the predominant reason. Sadly most JWs don't see the BS. Those who do try to leave quietly or stay in because of family but have little or no zeal. At least that's what I observed.
Isaac
It could be that they are now starting to do apostasy first, but will get caught doing fornication because that is the surest way to get disfellowshipped.
