Just be yourself. I ended up dating an ex-elder . It's been wonderful!!! We have a common ground. Keep your head up, it'll be just fine!
I'm worried about dating "worldly" women at 36 this is hard!!!
by Witness 007 52 Replies latest jw experiences
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yknot
ADVISORY: tastless comment below: WARNING
Witness 007 said
......I need a Poodle
Sweety, I thought we established this thread was about pu$$ie$.... Meow
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Finally-Free
If I were single today, I'd hire a housekeeper and a hooker. Both are honest relationships. If I want companionship, I'd get a dog.
Over the long haul, it's much cheaper than marriage and a divorce, and a lot less stressful.
W
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golf2
Allow me to share my experience. I married the girl I loved back in 62, ( worldly) we grew up together, it would have been 44 years in Aug of 2006, however cancer took her life. At present, I've been with another lovely women for the past two years. The irony with my present female companion is this, we were born in the same month, the same year, and our oldest children are the same age. Our cultures are oceans apart. This story doesn't end here, we met at a place where we BOTH were not suppose to be !!!!!
What's the suggestion I give, BE YOURSELF! Always, always give yourself TIME. Both women were not JW's. -
Gordy
I will have been separated for 12 years this coming December. Well thats when I was told to leave home because I was a "spiritual danger" to the family. I disassociated from the JWs in 2001, since then my wife has not spoken or had contact with me. Maybe thats the real date of separation?? Anyway I'd get divorced but never seem to get round to doing it. I'm now 57.
I suppose over the years I've been to busy trying to sort my own life out, clearing debts etc, dealing with own family.
Its not that I haven't thought looking for a woman and dating. I don't just mean for the physical side of things, but also for some companionship. Not that I'm alone, I have two sons, 32 and 20, living with me and usually go out with them. But they have their own lives to live.
But there is this strange thing that when I'm out and I'm talking to a woman I feel as if there is a barrier I put up. I feel as if I just don't know how to handle the situation. As someone said you feel like a 14 yr old again wondering what to do. Is it the usual thing that the first woman I "dated" was a JW and we got married, so never really had the interaction with dating other females.
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sweet pea
Just for reference
*** Watchtower 1961 December 15 pp. 767-768 Questions from Readers ***
• How can girls guard against temptation in this sex-crazy world?
When a girl reaches the age of puberty or physical maturity, her body has developed in the matter of sex more than in the mind. Young folks like to be together, first in groups, later in twos. If they have not been instructed by their parents in regard to the matter of sex, a boy and a girl are likely to become too familiar and to engage in what is popularly called petting or necking. They may practice this for a time and see no bad results. However, the time will come when there will be great danger in such actions. Why? In answer to this question, we can learn about nature and sex from the bovine family of mammals, both wild and tame.
Large herds of cattle, both male and female, wander over the plains feeding. Ordinarily the male or bull would not think of approaching the female or cow for sex purposes. If he did approach he would not receive a hearty welcome, but, rather, he might be gored by the cow’s horns. There is no petting or sex relations between bull and cow permitted, because the female is not in physical condition to breed. The bull seems to understand this and keeps in his own place. However, when the female of the species is in condition to breed, she makes the matter known. If there is no male in the herd, she will go elsewhere looking for one and she is unsettled until she finds one and then is bred by him. Now she is contented, and the end result is a calf. In this connection it is interesting to note that the male animal has no season at which he is not willing to engage in the breeding act.
If we humans would take a lesson from these creatures, we would learn something of importance in matters of sex, as to its purpose and the results of its operation.
As with a cow, when a young girl who has reached her puberty is in physical condition to conceive and become pregnant, her sex emotions are greatly aroused. If she has association with a boy, she is inclined to think that it is the sweetness of the “boy friend” that causes this delightful and new feeling, and so she becomes infatuated with him. If the boy friend should become sexually aroused and lets her know it and then she yields her body to the advances of the amorous boy friend, she is likely to become pregnant as a result of just one sex experience of this kind.
Some persons foolishly think that they know when it is “safe” to have sex contact with those of the opposite sex and thus avoid becoming pregnant, but this is a serious mistake on their part. Even learned biologists do not know exactly when there is no danger of conception for a woman. This is due to certain irregularities in the case of various females.
When the ovum, that is, the egg cell from which the baby starts, is at large or is on its way from the woman’s ovary through her Fallopian tube to the uterus, there it remains for an uncertain length of time, which varies greatly with different females. Then is the time when conception can take place if the ovum is met by a male life sperm. During that same time the female is sexually aroused and is ready for the sex act that at this time will cause a baby to result. This bearing of children is the sole privilege of the female. In fact, this is one main reason for creating the female of the human species.
There are cases where a girl became pregnant as a result of one sex interview with a boy. What a price for a girl, a virgin, to pay for a few minutes of satisfied sex emotions! When persons start in this dangerous and sinful course, they find it hard to overcome future temptations. When a young, unmarried girl falls to the temptation, the price she pays is terrible: shame, sorrow, a ruined reputation, endless troubles, with the danger of being disfellowshiped from a congregation if the girl is a dedicated member. It is high time for girls to understand the make-up of their bodies and its functions, especially with regard to sex. Then if a girl understandingly takes care of herself while the ovum is at large and is causing sex disturbance and cravings within her, she will be able to act like a true lady of irreproachable morals at all times. She will avoid the violating of her virginity and the shame and conscience-stricken state due to this; and wisely she will direct her young life so as to end up in the position of a clean, happy wife and mother of legitimate children, journeying to the new world of righteousness, where there will be no sex problems amid a sex-crazy population.
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restrangled
Don't wear anything polyester.
Don't slick back your hair.
Don't: Itch, scratch, pick, burp, fart or drink too much.
Don't bore her to death about yourself, history and/or accomplishments.
Other than that, be yourself.
That should cover most problems!
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Gordy
There are cases where a girl became pregnant as a result of one sex interview with a boy
"sex interview" makes it sound like she was applying for a job.
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greendawn
You imagine is hard, it's not hard. You have to know why you are dating is it for a casual relationship with no strings attached or a permanent one like marriage which involves considering numerous factors?
Take things easy you may, or may not, have to date several women before you get somewhere, some you will not like as partners and equally some will not like you.
Let things like eye contact, facial expresions and outright intuition of how the mutual chemistry is going on guide you. Be confident and full of your self.
I also agree with what someone said above better rely on a paid domestic assistant to clean the house and iron clothes and a hooker for sex rather than marry with the wrong kind of woman.
Otherwise marrying with the right kind of woman is better because it involves an intimate emotional relationship and having children. -
Hortensia
oh god, the cow article. I remember that one - someone made a point of applying it to me. I wasn't doing anything remotely cow-like (well, we know what they are talking about.) I was offended. I was single, therefore must be a cow in heat. poopy jerks.