I had 'doubts' in the very back recesses of my mind for a decade I suppose. I didn't see them clearly though. Just knew something was wrong.
I thought they had missed the true understanding of 'love' as taught by Jesus - but didn't really know why they had done so for a long, long time. I began to be assimilated into the bOrg structure at about 4 years old. At the age of 48 [2003 late fall] my wife and I finally found out about Ray's books, ordered them and read them. By the time I was finished with them, and about a bucket of tears later, I mark it as Jan 1, 2004, I knew we were the victims of a grandiose deception.
If I had to pick a date - about Christmas 2003 it clicked.
We have never set foot inside the KH since.