Homer... I hope that it all works out for this fella.
I have seen this happen twice before it happened to me. I really did not believe what I was seeing and hearing was all there was to it... I was hoping there was something deep in the background that I just did not understand. After time if became evident that poor elders advise helped to break up these marriages and shattered a couple of real good men.
I have had JW elders involved in two marriages. In the first one I was slandered and accused of all sorts of crap... and after a while the drunk, drugged out JW wifey showed up as the tramp she was. NO apoplogy to me from any of the parties. I ended up divorced and disqualified to serve in a faith I still had some hope in.
Second one... elders just plain talked this one right out of her family.
Again.. I hope this works out ok... but as one who's been there and done it... I see a bad moon risin........