I kept my wife in a good car and provided the income she dropped in the contribution box...Like I said..you have a right (by there rules) to make yourself privy to any spiritual stuff they may want to speak to her about. They will back door that.
Oh... any alienation of affections stuff... my lawyer told me that tree wouldnt be worth barking up. Seems that the courts will get very muddled in a church- state issue and most judges wont go there in a JW centered suit. Better off just doing a divorce and protecting assets as best you can.
Oh yea...her elders will tell her to just get divorced and get out... but she will get all sorts of advice about how to take you to the cleaners before they are done. Spirtual warfare is a bitch.