I will post an official "hello" and "welcome" message to you.
I am a fader who completed the fade pretty quick. When I first posted in Summer of 2006,
I had just resigned as an elder, knowing I had wasted 2 decades in a mind-control cult.
My wife and mother are still active. They are not JW zealots, but firm believers, so I can relate
a bit. However, I don't have kids.
It's great that your parents don't go to the meetings and don't hold your feelings over your head.
Same with your sister and her husband being fairly "weak" witnesses. That's a good thing.
I might be a bit pushy, seeing as I don't have kids, but if I did, I would want to get them out
of the JW religion pretty quick. IMO, they should not be baptized. If they are baptized, they
should still be encouraged to put education and career higher up the goals ladder than
I would have reacted different if I had kids when I discovered the lie of "the truth." I might have
immediately yanked them out, regardless of the consequences. Open Mind would be a great
guy to give you some empathy as he is a slow fader with family in the religion, including
You say "...we are summarily ignored because we are 'spiritually weak.'" Is your wife or children
considered weak because of their own situation or because of yours? Is your wife still pioneering?
You also say "I can't give myself away to the wife." I fully understand that, but slowly I overcame
that. I needed to be happy with my own feelings and pursue life outside of the Kingdom Hall. Many
here don't do that, but many do. If you want to fade further, you may have to reveal at least some
doubt or depression over the WTS or it's meetings.
But it's all up to you. Everyone (including me) can just spout off our opinions "if we were in that