Hi and welcome. I can relate. I have a husband who is certainly not a zealot but whenever I raise any questions his eyes glaze over and he gives the standard JW responses. I cannot break past that. I'm afraid to push the issue further in case he goes to the elders. If I pulled out CoC he would probably have a heart attack. I have children too and it was after they were born I really started thinking about the sort of life I want them to have. Certainly not mine.
I am almost decided that for now I have to stay in until circumstances change. I'm waiting for a tipping point, not sure what it is but I'll know it when I see it.