Would they DF me now if I go back pregnant, I think you still have to be practising the sin? and I've completely broke up with my BF, In fact I live a very sinless life by JW standards atm, Do you get DF for things you did while 'faded'?
OH YES YOU GET DF'ed FOR WHAT YOU DID WHILE FADING.
In most cases of WT-defined sin (like sex outside of marriage), it is the frequency of the
sin that gets you DF'ed. You may act repentant now, but they have to view that you were
unrepentant for years. That usually leads to a DF. That way, you can show that you are
repentant by attending all the meetings and jumping through hoops to get reinstated in a
few months. Coming back pregnant, THEY CANNOT OVERLOOK YOUR PAST and
say you are NOW repentant.
This is a virtual DF for your. I have little doubt that you will hate the shunning and be
sorry that you went back.
I left because of my failed first marriage
Why did a failed marriage cause you to leave? Was he a JW? Didn't you find any comfort
from the "friends" and "elders" over a failed marriage?
1. People can be cruel, tough. Wait til you hear what JW's will whisper behind your back.
People are the same- in or out. Some are good, some are bad. Try to find a counselor and
see if you can get into a group therapy and seek friends there, also try meetup.com to see if
there are groups with similar experiences. If you love books, join a book club. Try volunteer
work to help others, maybe you will enjoy that so much that you make friends with others that
enjoy volunteer work. There are lots of people that are good, but friends are hard to make.
I joined an ex-JW meetup group and made a great new friend, but he moved away. I have other
great friends among ex-JW's and will develop the friendships over time.
2. You made a bad marriage choice. Was the first one while you were a JW? Why did you
make bad marriage choices- because you didn't marry a JW? A counselor can help you see
why you make bad choices.
3. From bad marriage choices, often come bad in-laws.
4. As mentioned, friendships with JW's are VERY CONDITIONAL on your obedience and
standing in the congregation. Even after your reinstatement, you will be considered by many to
be "weak" or "bad association."
5. The Christian boyfriend needs to be lumped in with the bad husband choices. Ask the counselor.
6. Not everybody can fit a group because it has similar views to your own. Try different groups.
a sense of community again that I haven't seen in any other christian faith
While I don't advocate continual search through Chistian groups, you make a statement that seems to
indicate that you tried them all. I bet you didn't. What about non-Christians? You looked at atheism
then go to Christianity. Are Muslims and Hindus wrong about God? There are great Hindus out there.
What about Secular Humanists? How long did you check out each group? Did you give it longer than
it would take to get reinstated in the JW's.
There are tons of answers out there. Perhaps you are depressed and need medicine. Have you
checked on that? Keep seeking answers, don't give up. Don't go back something that wasn't a solution
such as the JW's.