by zamora251978 41 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
Hey guys,
My wedding is coming up and I am going to invite my mom and my dad and the rest of my siblings. How should I react when my recently new regular pioneer mother starts pitching a fit???? I don't want to be cruel. Any good ways to say something and still remain calm. Any advice is helpful.
Note* My sister just got married and asked me not to come to her wedding.
Lu
So I see you are rising above them and acting like an adult. Good for you! IF they do come you could maybe have some male friends be on the lookout for any disturbances. If she does act up instruct them to quietly escort her, and whoever cares to go, to the door. Give them "bouts" to make them look official. Or you could go up and say that you are sorry she couldn't act respectfully on your special day please just leave. And then have the guys show them the door.
Be prepared for it mentally in case it does happen. But I hope you have a wonderful, beautiful day, as every bride deserves.
momz
I agree with momz. You could also call the chief of police in the town the wedding reception is going to take place and ask to hire a policeman for extra security. He would be an intimidating presence that would, hopefully, discourage any disturbances.
We will have security my worry is the simple act of bringing the invitation to them tonight. I am giving it to them and I am scared that she is gonna tear the invitation up or start saying hurtful things. What should I do then.??? Just tell her I love you and that's it? What if she starts attacking? She is a fanatic. She told my aunt who is in her words "worldly" that I would repent one day and come asking for forgiveness crawling on my knees...what's up with that?
Lu
really need some advice guys maybe some good comebacks in a peaceful tone. I want to be the one that looks like an adult.
Lu
Zamora, first of all I wish you the best on your wedding day!!!
My mom & dad did not come to my sister's wedding (who is df'd) and did not come to my second wedding (df'd & married a worldly man this time). I would not hold out expectations that they will be there. More than likely when you give them the invitation, the will say something like, you know we won't be able to be there! And then more than likely they will put the blame on you as to why. Just be strong, and let them know that you wanted to invite them since they are your parents/siblings and that YOU will always have an open door to your family. Like Momz said, you will be the adult in this situation...the better person in the end!
Best of luck to you!!
babygirl....
i got married in july and sadly experienced this same thing. I sent out the invitations. Did not hear ANYTHING back from my dad or siblings. I left it at that. I did not try to call them or anything else. I felt i had done my part by extending the invitation. They did not show up at my wedding. And my day went on.It was beautiful.. and in all honesty they were missed. But i refused to let that take away from MY DAY. Its tough.. i understand exactly where you are coming from right now.
Just dont let them take away from the beauty of your day. Thats where i was going with that. They will say what they are going to say. Let them know they are loved and wanted there. But do not bring yourself down to their level. Its your day and it will be great! Congratulations!!
Thanks Babygirl,
I will try my hardest. I'm scared that I will start crying etc. Or maybe freak out and start yelling. I don't want to do that infront of my boys.
Lulu
I got married as a JW, and I didn't invite my father. It wasn't because he was an unbeliever, but because he was a heavy drinker who would likely cause trouble, particularly with my mom, since their marriage had just broken up. As an ex-jw now, I don't regret my decision to exclude him.
Your wedding is your special day, ideally the only such day in your life. I certainly hope so. Why invite anyone who you think may not behave properly?
W
