Ok so in a previous post I told all of you a little bit about my inlaws and what they put my husband and I through. I asked all of you if you thought it was ok to keep them cut off and out of our lives, if it was the right thing to do. Many of you posted and stated that you thought my husband and I were doing the right thing and I thank you all for making me feel better in my decision.
So here it is now several weeks later and we get this phone call from my step-dad. Not only is it weird that he is calling us (usually it my mom) but he wants to talk to my husband. So I hand the phone to my husband and he gets really quiet and an upset look forms on his face as he listens to my step-dad talk to him. Then he writes down a phone number and says good bye to my step-dad and then hangs up the phone. He turns to me and tells me that his dad called my parents asking to speak to him. My step-dad aware of our not speaking to my husbands family wisely tells my FIL that he will give my husband his phone number and my husband will call him back if he so chooses. My husband then tells me that FIL said it was urgent. So here we are thinking that someone has died or is dieing or something horrible as my husband calls his father back. Turns out it really wasnt that urgent. Apparently my husbands grandparents are in town for three days from Germany as a stop over before heading on to Hawaii and they want to see us. The first thing that I think of is that email that my husbands aunt sent us after her visit almost two years ago saying that no one there of the family wanted anything to do with us till we apologized to MIL. My husband tells this to my FIL and then tells him that we will only see the Grandparents if MIL is not there (since she is the one thats the worse of the two). FIL states that we could meet while she is in church (he doesnt attend, not sure if he ever joined or he faded) tomorrow afternoon. My husband says he will think about it and hangs up.
So we know this is trap, we know something bad mojo wise is going to happen, and yet after talking it over we feel that we need to give the Grandparents a chance. I know meeting with them (yes in a public place where we can just walk away and leave if need be) is the right thing to do but I am freaking out! Every time I have come into contact with any of my husbands family they have done and said things to hurt us and try and destroy us (like his mother one time tried to get us thrown out of our apartment.) Yes I know most of it is from MIL but they all listen to her.
All I want is to live my life with the family that I have made in peace.
LH