O.K. Okiesooner you asked for an opinion, I'm gonna give it to you carefully ( for the board administrators) and honestly so you can have a nice loving , sexy time with your wife. Ala Borat. O.K. Serious now. JK666 hit on some important points to help you along . Now I do want to mention before I start here , if you have an erectile disfunction problem that could be attributed to depression , or some other physical ailment , please seek a physicians help. However , you mentioned could there be a direct link to being raised a witness to your sex inactivity ? Well yes, and no. The witness organization tries to control normal sexual foreplay that a couple can do , which would greatly increase the joy a couple would have together if not for the hindrance of the cult.
For instance, here I go. I think even the witnesses addressed this in some of their books, that a woman takes a lot longer than a man to come to a sexual arousal. Many men miss this point. A man tends to think that a woman can be aroused within 10 to 15 minutes and that is not true. True for a guy, but not a woman. You need to do things to her that the witnesses wouldn't allow you to do. Like go down on her. I'm talking 20 minutes or more here. She will see you are concerned with her feeling good, that you are not selfish, and really love her and want to pleasure her. Then, your wife will be more motivated to do the same to you. Then after that, you will both be in such a frenzy that orgasms will be a foregone conclusion. ( Administators, I'm being as careful as I can be here. ) Anyway , Okiesooner I wish you the best in your marriage. Just throw yourself into it. Peace to you my friend, wish you the best