I was having lunch last week with my mom and she dropped the a-word on me. My mom started off the lunch speaking about what a disappointment I was to her that my wife and I had put our little girl into a Christian private school. I posted on an earlier thread that my wife and I now have a 6 year old beautiful little girl that we're adopting. I live in area of town in which the neighborhood public schools are a scary place, so that leaves 3 options: private schools that are all run by some religious affiliation, homeschooling or lying about my address and enrolling her into one of the suburban cities school system. My jw mom was the one who suggested using her address to enroll her into the public school system in her town, but I won't lie. Homeschooling is not an option because of our jobs, so we opted for a private school.
About 3 bites into lunch she tells me that by enrolling her into a 'Christian' school I am now an apostate and asked me if I had looked up apostasy in the reasoning book. She also said that she could cut my older brother some slack (he also enrolled his kids in Christian private schools years ago) because he was never baptized. She would not 'go easy' on me or my wife because, "You were both baptized and swore to serve jehovah."
There was an earlier thread that asked if one would be any good at debating with a jw and I guess my answer with this particular jw would have to be 'no'. I just got quiet. Not because of guilt or the need to try and maintain the relationship with the family still inside, my wife and I are ready to DA if an elder so much as looks in our general direction, but because of pity. I felt pity that in one breath she would suggest lying and then condemn the two of us (or three since my wife and I are taking down our soon to be daughter) for pursuing a safe meaningful education for a six year old.
My only response to her was, "If you think that in the last 13 years of us not attending meetings that the worst sin I've committed is enrolling a six year old girl in a Christian school, you're sadly mistaken" and that, "I think the hard part for you is that when I walk out the door of this restaurant nothing changes for me and everything changes for you."
You want to know the weird part? I really expected her to cease contact with me after that but she's been to the house twice and my phone rings numerous times a day from her.