When I was studying, the sister who studied with me was a pioneer and as "righteous-overmuch" as they come! I wasn't even baptized and she was already pressuring me to pioneer since I didn't work. Nevermind that I had three little girls all under 4!!!
Well, this sister got divorced because her husband cheated on her and immediately she went as a delegate to the convention in the Philippines. There she met a Bethel elder and fell in love. Upon returning, they began a long-distance courtship (even though her divorce was far from over). Within months, he had proposed marriage and she accepted. They were officially engaged.
Well this sister was extremely sensual (i.e., horny). She was always talking about sex with me. After our studies in the Live Forever book we would lay out by my pool and it seemed like her mind was always preoccupied with sex.
Soon a new family moved into our congregation and they had a young brother who was also engaged. We all hung out together and became close friends even though I wasn't even baptized yet.
One day this sister tells me she and the new brother went out the night before and gave me all the details of what they did with each other. I didn't know about the crotchtower's policy that you didn't actually have to have intercourse to have committed "porneia" so I thought it was hypocritical but it never occurred to me that I should (according to their rules) turn her in.
Jump forward 11 years ... my husband runs into the "brother" who she committed this porneia with and they hang out. The guy is being left by his wife because he has a "sexual addiction". So the conversation progresses, I show up and I don't know why I did this but I just blurted out, "Soooo, you and bla bla huh?"
The guy just looks at me, stays quiet, then asks, "What do you mean?" I said, "You and bla bla in your 4 Runner!!!" He turns white and says, "You know about that? We swore NEVER to tell anyone!!!" So, at this point, the poor guy starts spilling his guts out.
According to him, he and this sister got together more than once. She did things to him that his wife refuses to do. He feels he "needs" these things, having experienced them (which I feel is BS but nevermind what I think for the story's purpose). So, he went to other women and paid them to do the things to him that the sister did to him that his wife will not. He also says he has been bothered by his conscience for the entire 11 years, not being able to tell anyone what they did. But he did confess to his wife about his "problem" and that he was paying for it and thus he is now disfellowshipped and she is filing for divorce.
The thing is I am sooooo bugged, irritated, pissed, etc. that this "sister" is still pioneering, now married to this Bethel Elder, has been a self-righteous boob her entire life and to top it off: IS THE MAJOR INFLUENCE ON MY OWN SISTER TO SHUN ME!
And her secret has been kept safe all this time. Yet this brother is suffering from a troubled conscience to say the least. Plus, he is losing his wife and has been disfellowshipped (even though it's his own fault). It bugs me that SHE is getting away with it.
Her family is this huge JW family who is always judging everyone else and my sister is extremely influenced by them. Yet she has no idea what this sister is all about. According to her own beliefs, this sister should have been outed by "holy spirit" a long long time ago!
I just want to scream it out, leak it out somehow. Someone tell me not to do it. Someone tell me how wrong it would be and that they would be disappointed in me. I need to be talked out of it like RIGHT NOW!