I think the board has done a really good job of clarifying the issues for you. But I so enjoyed writing my reply, I'll include it here. I picked out some things you said. See if they hit home.
but the marriages didn't work because neither one of his wives were "doing what God says" they should do, as far as giving him headship.
I went to the Kingdom Hall...it was very boring
Yes. Don't expect improvement any day soon.
I am currently in a bible study with an older lady who is very nice but told me that I should consider wearing skirts to meetings.
I had to remove the book from my apartment
This is a foretaste of what is to come. Do you like this?
He becomes super-religious, I make up my mind that it's over, one of us breaks down and calls the other, we get back together and are very happy for about 1-2 weeks, then his guilt takes over again and he pressures me into going to meetings.
You realize this is the same cycle that abused wives go through, don't you?
I'm so torn. I love this man. I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
Why? He's a control freak. He lied about his expectations, and I suspect it will only get worse. Rent the Stepford Wives, dear, and think long and hard if you want that sort of life. Release him, release him from his guilt and conflict. Tell him to call you if he ever makes a full break with the Witnesses, to give you a call. But not to wait too long. You may start dating again.
I'm not sure if I can lead a normal life with this man, but then I don't know if I would ever enjoy life without him.
Anyone who makes cupcakes on Dr. Seuss's birthday knows how to enjoy life!
can't won't make a decision on what to do and it's causing me so much pain.
Imagine that you have a beautiful thorn stuck in your foot. Once in a while it gets so painful, you pull it out. But the thorn pleads to be stuck back in, and you concede. You tolerate the pain for a while, but then you pull it out again. Yes, it will be painful to make a clean break, but the pain will be temporary. If, however, you set yourself up to be hurt over and over, your pain will continue.
It's not that you can't make the decision, is that you won't accept the full consequence of a clean break. You might be afraid you cannot attract another charming and intelligent lover. Face the fear, and you will.