by Elsewhere 45 Replies latest jw friends
My friend changed her "dating strategy" and maybe you should look at that....keep in mind where a person is from to gauge the meaning of the "f" word....you don't want to pass up a great person/relationship!!!
My experience is that they say the "F" word just before they run away as fast as possible.
My experience is that they say the "F" word just before they run away as fast as possible.
O.K. ...you're not supposed to SCREAM it at them, say it in a sultry, sexy voice!!! I think you need voice lessons, sounds like you're SCARING them off! LOL!!!
(You can always whisper in their ear, "That's not exactly what I had in mind when I saw you!")
Swalker
There is another recent post about a book called the 'game' by neil strauss, I would suggest you read that book.
Women... they want a man who is confident, strong, mysterious and shares all of his feelings
Drop the "shares all of his feelings" and you've got it! Women share all of their feelings, which is why they get along so well with their girlfriends.
Sharing your feelings is necessary in a long term relationship (even so, you don't need to share ALL of them ALL the time). Sharing feelings will work against you when you're just looking to date women.
Here's more from the great Pook:
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The Secret to womanese is that it is a passage of feelings (where with REAL language it is a passage of thought). Women do not listen to each other, they FEEL one another. They cheer one another up. See those phone lines that are on fire due to women getting home from dates and calling each other? Female gossip is female therapy. As soon as they walk out of class, they must call someone on their cell phone immediately.
We know men 'think' and women 'feel', but not in such a bizarre context. Everything a woman says will be 'feeling'. Women are always touching each other (just not in our universe). Feeling, feeling, feeling... that is the sum of womanese.
In this universe, we view womanese as an almost type of Matrix code. But in Womaniverse, what is transmitted is not thought but feelings . You will not find women grouped together chatting about intellectual ruminations of Kant and Aristotle. No, they will either be talking about sex, food, or shopping, and often in that order.
If she says,
This guy came and STARED at me. It was creepy! He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how he wanted to go out with me!
Other guys think I am beautiful, lovely, and want to date me. Why don't you?
Learn to identify the FEELING coming from her. Don't even listen to her words, FEEL how she says it and why. With the above example, the feeling is guys finding her beautiful. As guys, we would think, "What a creepy guy!" or "Why are you not telling this to your girlfriends?" She is transmitting a FEELING, not a thought, and this FEELING is that guys find her beautiful. She wants you to know this because she wants YOU to ask her out!
There is another recent post about a book called the 'game' by neil strauss, I would suggest you read that book.
It's a fantastic read and although the techniques in that book DO work, it fails to get to the root of a man's problems. Mystery Method alone is useful in getting some dates and sex, but none of it is good for long term relationships. If you can effectively enhance and polish your personality, the combination of MM and your enhanced, attractive personality is dynamite. Another downside to MM is much of it is just canned openers and gimmicks. If one can come up with their own effective openers and use their raw personality to gain a woman's interest, it'll work out much better in the long run.
Hmmmm... here is another interesting book I just saw at Amazon...
The Complete A**hole's Guide to Handling Chicks by Dan Indante and Karl Marks
Book DescriptionEver wonder why the a**hole always gets the girl? The answers are all here in this cradle-to-grave primer outlining how women can be manipulated, frustrated, and ultimately dominated through-out the course of a man's life. With no political correctness, no B.S., and no holds barred, who else but an a**hole could teach guys the essentials: -Dating in college (i.e., getting blackout drunk and having sex) -Women give sex to get love, men give love to get sex -Breaking up is not hard to do-if you do it first -How to cheat on your wife without getting caught -Everything that pornos are afraid to teach men about sex -And much more! With 'practical' advice throughout (inclu-ding tests, trivia, charts, and sidebars) and tons of hilarious tips to read aloud at parties, men will never be intimidated by women again!
Your best lover will be a true friend. Have more female friends and let them know you hang out with other female friends. Don't make moves unless TIME goes by and you are sure there's some chemistry beyond friendship. Girls like to atract, not being 'hit on'. You'll look more desirable and in control if you take-your-time.
Else - I don't have any good advice. I've seen your pix, you're a good looking guy and from your posts you seem very gentile, intelligent, and interesting. Maybe you are just hitting the wrong parties, but don't doubt yourself.
There is another thread or two discussing a book called "The Game" about pick up lines and such,
Tell her you just want sex, but you are open for more than that if it develops. It's guaranteed to keep you off that dreaded friends list.
S
Women... they want a man who is confident, strong, mysterious and shares all of his feelings.
Strong.... yes. Literally.
Mysterious and shares all his feelings... ummmm no. If I wanted that, I would have married a woman. Ladies, you can't possibly want a man that shares all his feelings. Don't you think that's kind of wussy?
