Highlander,
Thanks for a remarkably honest post in the one instance and for defending me in the second. I wasn't trying to be a mindless prick - pun intended - in what I wrote to restrangled, but I do know some women who have enjoyed some really great casual sex. I also know of people who've hated it.
Yeah, if you love somebody and trust them and they are a great physical turn on for you and you have great sex with them, that's an unbeatable combination. Unfortunately, it's rare, though Western culture has made people expect this to happen.
restrangled, that last post to highlander was unnecessarily mean. We're just trying to make some points here, sorry if they disagree with your romantic view of what sex is. All I'm stating is that it's that view that leaves a lot of people very disappointed in life, that they didn't get all of that - the love, trust, turn-on and mind blowing sex all in one romantic package. It's just not realistic.
XU wrote: I got DF's in HS for F, but seeing all the older girls getting married, it was horrible. They all put on 30 pounds and the couple showed up glassy eyed and miserable.
Nice post, XU, and good points.
Yeah, what are you supposed to do when someone you love and trust simply no longer appeals to you sexually? That's a horrific place to be, and there is not a lot you can do to change what you regard as sexy. We all change with time, and we have to accept that. But when someone gains 80 or 100 pounds and turns into a person that physically has no appeal to you, how do you deal with that? You either settle or leave, and both of those are horrible options.
I'll probably be put down again as just being a "shallow guy out for a good time," but I think this is an important factor in a lot of relationships, something you're reminded of every night you get ready for bed.
S4