Do you miss 'em?

Jourles

If you're df'd or da'd and your friends and family have cut you off, do you still miss them?

I miss some of my good friends I admit. But do you want to know something really callous? I do not miss my parents. Over the last year, I have forced myself to put them out of my mind. I keep telling myself, "Out of sight, out of mind." I'm a bastard for thinking that, right? I don't really care. They are the ones who made the decision to abandon me, not the other way around.

When I spoke with Gadfly(Stacey) this last week, she mentioned that my mom was one of those witnesses that followed the WTS "to the letter." That brought a small smirk to my face because I knew she was totally right. My mom is one of those witnesses that will defend the WTS to her death, right or wrong. I have absolutely no hope that she will ever leave. My dad will simply follow my mom's footprints. Whatever she does or thinks regarding the WTS, he will follow.

So, do you miss 'em?

ESTEE

Of course . . .

Especially my two kids . . . and two of my brothers who shun me. And my friends Gail and Joyce. I think Joyce is df'd, too, but I don't know where she is. We've lost touch.

ESTEE

Arthur

My mom is one of those witnesses that will defend the WTS to her death, right or wrong. I have absolutely no hope that she will ever leave.

I relate to you Jourles. My mother is the same way. There is a word for this type of behavior: idolatry.

lisavegas420

I miss what could of and should of have been.

lisa

fullofdoubtnow

I miss a few of the friends I left behind. Happily, none of my family ever became jws.

luna2

I'm with Linda. I was the lone JW in my family so that was never an issue. My best friend exited the dubs at about the same time I did which has been great. There are some other people that I think fondly of and miss from time to time, but I wasn't truly very close to any of them so its not that hard to have no contact.

I sometimes wonder how I'd feel if my parents had been dubs and I was shunned by them. At one time that wouldn't have been so bad, now that they're in TX and I don't see them every day, I'm glad that I we have a more normal relationship.

IronClaw

They are the ones who made the decision to abandon me, not the other way around.

EXACTLY !!!!!

IP_SEC

Do you miss 'em?

Not so much really. I have better friends now anyhow. 'sides I can talk to my old friends any time I want... they might not talk back to me but... hey its all good.

Dansk

I can honestly say I don't miss a single so-called 'friend' I had in the JWs. And even though I haven't seen my daughter in over three and a half years, I don't miss her, either! I know it sounds callous, but it could have something to do with the fact that my other three children are still here (although Karl is at university he was home last week) and, being married, I know my daughter is ok.

Point is, with so much going on here with our other three children, my regular trips to the hospital, my making better friends than I've ever had in my life before (barring one or two) and still being madly and passionately in love with my wife, my mind and life is fully taken up!

Ian

greendawn

I never had friends in the JWs worth remembering, or relatives, but I suppose one can always find new friends and relatives to replace them should that be necessary and then the old gets to be obsolete and is forgotten.

Do you miss 'em?

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