Do you miss 'em? (page 2)

Balsam

Jourles,

I have a nephew and his wife and son who are jw's and they broke off all contact but I've nearly forgotten all about them now since it has been 5 years. I've been fortunate both my son's left the witnesses. I left my jw husband and divorced him. You know the ones I miss most are the jw friends I used to have. I feel most pissed at them for their shallowness and their complete adherence to the organization without question and their shear blind loyality to men they don't even know in the governing body.

I say forget they exist if they turned their back on you. They are only family in name if they are willing to shun you over a friggin religion divorcing yourself from them mentally is necessary for survival.

Good for you Jourles packing them up mentally and putting them away and forgetting.

balsam

sandy

I cannot imagine being cut off from my family completely. My parents will never be die-hard dubs so I don't fear that happening. My relationship with some of my siblings is quite different now and pretty distant. So I guess I miss the type of relationship I never had with them. The type where you can say anything to one another without any fear or hesitation. My sisters and I never had that type of bond, there are still topics that are off limits.

Finally-Free

Hmmm, do I miss the constant nagging? Do I miss the disapproving looks? The sarcasm? The neverending criticism? The contemptuous tone of voice I heard in nearly every word spoken to me?

No, I don't miss them at all. I finally have a measure of peace and quiet in my life. You couldn't pay me to associate with those pieces of shit again.

W

choosing life

Hate to break the mood here, but yes,I do miss my daughter. Of course, it is pretty fresh for me. But somehow I don't think that will change ever.

LittleToe

Yup, I miss 'em.

Their loss is greater than mine, however, as they remain mentally shackled, whereas I'm as free as a bird

nelly136

no, i dont miss them or the hassle that went with them.

hemp lover

I miss my dad during football season (now). Go Bears!

My younger brother is the one person I just can't let myself think about...ever. When my itunes randomly shuffles to "Bobby Jean" by Bruce Springsteen, I lose it every time. That was our song when we were friends and the lyrics are about losing track of someone you love.

My mom used to talk to me, but she's all dead now, so I miss her in a more hopeless way.

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

I miss the relationship my parents and I once had. I miss the relationship my older sister and I once had. It turns out though they weren't actually the relationships I thought they were but illusions of such, and that's the part that sucks the most.

I don't miss them when I think about how they treat me now, and how I feel when I spend time with them now. I hate feeling like a bad person for writing that.

Emma

My mom is one of those witnesses that will defend the WTS to her death, right or wrong. I have absolutely no hope that she will ever leave.

My sisters, too. I missed my mom most of all, but I got over it for the most part. There were times I was sad. Thing is, I was never df'd or da'd but my family shunned me when I became inactive. I no longer miss my sisters. I believe shunning makes leaving easier in the long run, no constant reminders to "go back." If the society thinks shunning is effective, they should think again.

I sometimes still miss my best friend; she was closer than any of my sisters. We understood each other and were there for each other in hard times. Wish I could tell her.

bavman

I sometimes miss the friendships I "thought" I had. But, I am right there with ya. I am slowly but surely not caring anymore. I have sent e-mails, tried calling, talked to my dad briefly when my mom was in the hospital (btw, I was the only family member who they didn't want there), sent flowers, sent a book my Dad would appreciate, sent pictures of what I am up to now and of my son having a good time with me. The e-mails coming back are shorter and shorter and are colder and colder. My mom doesn't even sign them with love anymore and more recently stopped replying at all. Relationships take effort and when no effort is coming back the relationship dies. That's just the way it is.

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