But what if your hubby has lost that lovin feelin because he can't get it up any longer even w/the help of the little blue pill? Just turns his emotions off towards you and "makes love to the TV"?? What is happening on TV is more important than what I have to talk about.
It's extremely difficult for me - and most likely most other men here, too - to fully understand your husband's situation because I'm not in his position. You mentioned that even with "the little blue pill" he can't manage so perhaps it's some kind of early male menopause brought on through some hormone deficiency (??). In other words, and if that is the case, he can't really help feeling as he does. In such circumstances, at least you know it isn't that you're unattractive or undesirable but at the mercy of a medical condition. I assume he's sought medical advice?
I really, really do feel for you because, as you know, I had lots of chemotherapy and, believe me, one's libido takes a backward dive. Fortunately, Claire has been wonderfully understanding and very sensitive - helping me get through it and becoming functional again.
I guess if one's drive isn't there anymore it just isn't there!
I know a couple who have 6 children and I was surprised to learn that they don't sleep together anymore. Each has a separate bedroom in the house and, the husband told me, they stopped having sex in their early 50s! I was in my forties at the time, and I'm 52 now, and here's this couple who haven't fallen out of love, they just lost their libido!
I don't know if this has helped or not, but if you haven't done so already please seek counselling. While sex obviously isn't everything, your husband may have a condition that can be rectified. I certainly hope so for both of you because I'm sure your husband is as frustrated as you are deep down!