this elder proceeds to tell me that if you subtract the 4 hrs he spent studying with his kids every month (which by the way he doubted also) then he was really only out in the field about 4 hrs a month.
XBEHERE! That totally happened in our circuit. We had a fire-and-brimstone eating C.O., very old-school guy, and check out this insane policy that he enforced during his reign of terror:
If any brother was nominated by the local body of elders to be appointed as a ministerial servant, the CO would look at his family situation and hours combined. If the brother had children, the CO would require MORE hours from him than from brothers who didn't have families. His reasoning? If a brother had children, obviously at least four of his hours were coming from studying with them. Those hours don't "count" for taking the lead in the congregation field service efforts. So for brothers with families, he'd require 14 hours a month, only 10 for brothers without families.
Ironically, this meant that brothers with the extra burden of kids and family actually had even more burden piled on top of them to reach out for being an MS, not less.