Hi LT and others
I think many have a problem seeing the difference between the person and the beliefs, regardless what those beliefs are. I have seen (not just here but in other places) that people have a very hard time separating the two. I know there are times when I am sure of somethings and waver on so many others. But my beliefs are just my beliefs. They could be right or wrong or a bit of both or perhaps even neither.
I think too often we think that what we believe defines who we are as a person. That certain is true of JWs. And if someone comes along and challenges the belief we may feel that it is who we are as a person that is challenged rather than the belief.
It's hard to make that leap into realizing truth is what it is to that one person. As I am writing the chapters for the bio, I am contually reminding myself that the story is my story, my truth. Others may not, and some definitely will not, agree with my truth, my story.
Perhaps if we find ways to remind ourselves that what a person believes does not define who they are, (my beliefs may change but I am still me), life and communication with others will be enriched instead of feeling attacked.