by Devorak 30 Replies latest social relationships
When I was your age I met the girl of my dreams, my first girlfriend. The only reason I loved her was she was the first. Looking back now I am horrified to think I thought about marrying her. There are plenty of fish in the sea, give yourself time to enjoy being an adult before wanting to make such a committment.
Never ever marry a JW. However, if you can get into her head, get her on the internet and open her brainwashed mind then may in a few years she may be the one for you.
Hello heartbreak of the week... you guys should form a club.
You're not as mature as you think. Let her go, grow up for a few years, and life will be better.
Everything that could be said to you has already been said on the 'relationships' tab, and there's a thread in 'best of'. Look it up.
As a mature young man in love, you have a very long road ahead of you. Because of your strong faith and hers, I suggest a long engagement, say, two years. This will give you time to get your FILM dream off the ground, save some money for the future, and for the two of you to get used to the battles between religions. You two will find out if you are strong enough to weather the storms. Here's some questions to help you work through your problem.
You've said very little about your girlfriend's perspective in all this. How does she react when her family bad-mouths you? Has she asked you to be JW to make it easier on her? Is she dreaming of a Kingdom Hall wedding?
Have the two of you discussed the beliefs that will bring you in conflict, and have you come to a compromise?
DEVORAK, LISTEN TO WHAT "GERARD" AND "JWFACTS" ARE SAYING. DON'T EVER GET INVOLVED WITH JW'S. WHEN A PERSON GET'S BAPTIZED IN THAT RELIGION, YOU DEDICATE YOUR SELF TO THE WATCHTOWER SOCIETY AND NOT TO GOD. THEY OWN YOU. YOU DO AND BELIEVE WHAT THEY SAY. YOU DO NOT QUESTION ANY BELIEVES [MARCH 1\06 HAS AN ARTICAL ON KEEPING SILENT.] ALSO YOU NO LONGER CAN THINK FOR YOUR SELF [JANUARY 15, 1983 "AVOID INDEPENDENT THINKING, IT IS MANIFESTED BY QUESTIONING THE COUNSEL OF THE ORGANIZATION."] YOU ARE LABELED AN APOSTATE IF YOU EVER DISAGREE WITH THE ORGANIZATION AND YOU LOSE YOUR FAMILY AND SO CALLED FRIENDS. THEY WILL VIEW YOU AS THO YOU NEVER EXISTED. THAT IS HOW BAD THAT CULT IS. YOU CAN'T GET OUT OF A CULT ALIVE AND THO THEY CAN'T LITERALLY KILL YOU, THEY WILL SPIRTUALLY. SO MANY OF US FOUND OUT TOO LATE AND LOST THOSE WE LOVE. THERE IS "NO WIN" WITH THAT ORGANIZATION. THEY TWIST EVERY THING. THE ONLY REASON SOME STAY IN THE ORGANIZATION IS BECAUSE OF THE CONSEQUENCES [LOSING THEIR FAMILY]. THEY ARE ALWAYS SAYING "THE END IS NEAR" AND JESUS SAID AT LUKE 21:8 "MANY WOULD COME ON THE BASIS OF MY NAME SAYING "THE DUE TIME HAS APPROACHED" DO NOT GO AFTER THEM." THEY HAVE PREDICTED THE END OF THE WORLD DOZENS OF TIMES AND EVEN SAID "THE CREATOR PROMISES A PEACEFULL AND NEW WORLD BEFORE THE GENERATION OF 1914 PASSES AWAY." THAT QUOTE IS FOUND ON THE INSIDE COVER OF THE AWAKE MARCH 1988 UNTIL OCTOBER 1995. SO MUCH MORE I COULD REFER YOU TOO BUT THIS IS PROBABLY LONG ENOUGH AND HOPE YOU INVESTIGATE THE CULT BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING YOU WILL REGRET.
""But I am in love with someone. I am only 18 and she is 17.""
This says it all. Neither of you are mature enough to make such a life long commitment. Grow up first.
Sorry if it sounds harsh.
As Iron Madien said: Run to the hills, run for your life! Jehovah's Witness women will screw you over for the org the first chance they get. However, don't give up hope. Ask her if she has any doubts about the religion at first. She obviously does if she's going out with you. If she does express major doubts, ask her why is she a witness, because she's just used to being one and that's all she knows or because she actually has a reason to believe that Jesus came down in 1914 invisibly? Make her think, but be VERY gentle. Remember, in the Matrix, they didn't flood Neo with all sorts of new information. That would have killed him.
run run run in the other direction don't look back keep running my step son just commited suicide because he was brought up a witness he was only 18. I'm telling you don't get involved.
welcome blondie38 thats such a shame and waste
Welcome, blondie38. I'd love to hear your story some time.
The girl is a member of a cult. It can't be good for you to get too heavy with her, plz let this one go.
