Freedom Lover is right. Boundaries!!! Starting with why is she searching YOUR home.
Unless she is paying your rent, mortgage , taxes etc she is a 'guest' in your home and will honor the boundaries afforded her as such. That includes coming in when allowed, calling first of course, removing dirty footwear and if she can be polite she might just get some refreshment.
I spent many, many years cramming their beliefs down the throats of 3 innocent little boys and dragging them kicking and screaming to meetings. I even would have to run through the bushes and the woods to bring them back to the house to catch our ride on Sunday ams. Leaving me looking like a bag lady with torn nylons and bloody scratches on my legs. But I did this as I was determined to fulfill my duty as being a great mommy as dictated to me by all the elderettes in the borg. The elderly sister that gave us rides never had the inclination to wait for me to clean up so I always looked trashed.
Now I have 3 adult sons who can not figure out whether to hate me for dragging them through this torture while giving them nothing for good happy memories or whether to hate me for waiting all these years and then leaving a belief system that I had convinced them meant life.
What I am saying is this type of cruelty and harshness is a two edged sword. Enjoy your baby and remember she hit you with the only weapon that she had that could hurt you... your relationship with your daughter.
She must have been shocked when her circular reasoning fell short on you!!! hehehehe
You are a good and kind soul. Never forget that. p.s. frame that holloween and the birthday pics of your little girl and put them on the walls.
Mary in the cabin.