I am a 30ish honkey who is married to a black chick. Have been so for getting close to 10 years, married that is, I have been a honkey all my life.
I am not hippieish though, I was born in the country, raised admidst a lot of white people who ran the gamit(sp?) from really racist to not at all. This up until I was mid-teen. My parents raised me to not be prejudice at all. Which I am not. Then I became real close friends with family from JA. In some ways they are closer than my own family. I grew up pretty well balanced, and am sort of a social chamilion. I can be "white preppy" "white country" "redneck" "black" "seudo-jamaican" whatever. Mostly I am El-Corporate-O at work and just a little childish at home.
My wife is on the dark side, and absolutely gorgeous!
Most of our problems are external. My wife has a hard time with peoples looks and comments, not as much now that I have trained her. I mostly don't hear them cause I don't give a flying F**K what people think. When dating I had problems with her mom being prejudice against me, but after about 5 years she loves me. Mostly cause I make a s**t load of money and make a good husband. All this and her mom is a long time pioneer. My parents love my wife, I think even more than they love me, and so do my siblings. In fact I think all my friends now like her more than they like me. But hey I am pretty much the Token White Guy in my group...can't dance and all! (well, I can a little)
Anyway if this was not enough I really love my wifes B double O T Y!
My wife loves to shop too. I like to be outside.
There are many differences that we have but we do have things in common too, there does need to be something real at the base, but you don't have to be clones to make it work.
My personality lends me to be able to endure crap, hell, half the time I don't even know someone has a problem and it is never anyone I know cause they would get a size 13 straight up the rectum. Wifey on the other hand is delicate and I have to protect and shield her, getting better with time but not the cold hard a**hole that I am.
I say all this to say, if you have something solid, screw what other people think. BUT make sure that you are getting out of the relationship what you need.