I know I'm telling you guys this a bit late, but I really needed to let it sink in.
We told my parents about the baby sooner than we had planned. We told them last Friday. They were the LEAST enthusiastic of all the people we told.
One of the first things out of my JW mother's mouth was "How can you raise a child in this terrible world?"
My father started rattling his fingers on the table. I know what that means. It means he's disappointed in me. He did that when I announced that I was moving out, when I announced I was getting married, and now this time.
I verified this the other day with my mother. I asked her what he thought of the baby, and she said "The same thing he thought of your wedding". In other words, I've royally fucked up my life.
It's so sad that these two people can NEVER be happy for me. They're always disappointed with the decisions I've made in my life. I've done so well on my own, but they never see it that way. Then they wonder why I never come to visit them.
My father gave my mother's son (from her first marriage) over $300 when he got married. He gave me (his only son) nothing when I got married, but came to the wedding to eat as much food as possible. He treats my half-brother's kids like they are his own grandchildren. I'm guessing he's not going to do the same for my kids. Then, when the topic of my half-brother comes up, my father trashes him.
My mother is the JW and was physically abusive to me when I was a child. I don't want her trying to brainwash my child, and I don't want her to lay a hand on him/her.
What shitty grandparents my child is going to have.