Getting married in the kingdom hall ( ..."have you had sex?")

by slimboyfat 45 Replies latest jw friends

  • Mary

    Yes, they will ask you if you've "committed fornication".

    If I said no and lied, would that affect the brother's relationship with Jehovah?
    ROTFLMAO!! Are you serious?

  • TheListener

    They may or may not ask. They are supposed to ask. Not specifically if you had sex or not, but like a previous poster said they should ask generically about your relationship and if you've maintained a clean courtship. They may bluntly ask you if there is any reason you know of that would prohibit you from getting married in the KH.

    Your answer is between you and God. The brother being lied to will in no way have his relationship with God affected. imho.

    However, if your mate is a serious dub then perhaps someone will spill the beans due to conscience issues.

  • Dismembered

    Yes they will. Tell them NO!


  • ferret

    Never never never admit it if so. Everybody and his brother will know about it. If asked , yes I would lie to the elders it is none of their business.

  • Gretchen956

    Yes he is a dupe, but remember if he was on a witness stand before a court of the law he would lie to protect the witnesses. It's called theocratic warfare. If you lied to him I don't see much difference, think of it the same way, theocratic warfare.



    Its left to the person giving the wedding talk to ask or not, most do. Make him feel uncomfortable and ask him to define sex for you.

  • greendawn

    That's too intrusive for them to ask, it's none of their business, if you say yes we did that will spell major trouble for you so say no. It's your your own theocratic strategy they don't have the right to know so tell them anything that suits you.

  • dinah

    Seems I remember reading a story where a couple were caught fornicating before their wedding and the elders made them dissolve their relationship. You don't want that to happen.

    I wish you well in your marriage!!

  • slimboyfat

    What is that famous quote again?

    "it is not lying when we conceal information from people who are not entitled to such information"

    Is that how it goes?

  • Chimene

    I would say, "gee, do you think I'd tell you if I had?" NO! LOL!!!

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