min, I'm glad that my days of looking after my mother are over. I was the family caretaker for 40 years and finally handed over the responsibility to the ones that kept telling me that I wasn't doing it right.
I can bet that your aunt has been "counseling" your mother for years.
I can also bet that your brother has done little to help your mother but offer empty words.
And all this while all of your were "good" JWs.
Are you surprised by your brother's behavior? I bet he has acted like this in other situations. Your mother is better off having 2 people who "really" care about here in charge of her medical decisions.
Love, Blondie (seen it all)