I am hurt, my wife had a miscarriage and still my family didn't contact me

by jwfacts 59 Replies latest jw experiences

  • serendipity

    hugs Jwfacts & Mrs. This is very cold behavior considering the situation. I'd write a letter to them telling how hurt you are, and ask is this a display of their Christian love. If they think it is, it brings reproach on God.

  • hartstrings

    I am so very sorry for your lose. I experienced a miscarriage as well and the pain is excrutiating. My heart goes out to you and your wife.

    I never fails to amaze me how willingly people give up their consciences to a controlling power. You always hear people say how they can't believe that Hitler could make all those Germans torture their fellow man. Then you look at a situation like this and it is no different. Just like the Germans, they believe they are following God's will, no matter how much it conflicts with their gutteral reaction. They've shut off their emotional spiget. I am so very, very sorry that you a victim of their cruelty. Many ((Hugs)), HS

  • outnfree

    (((((Mr. & Mrs. jwfacts)))))

    So sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences on the loss of your child.

    I think writing a letter is a good idea. (Even if you never send it, getting your thoughts down on paper will be cathartic.) And I do think, too, that attention seems to be mostly focussed on the mom when a baby is miscarried, so there's that.

    It's all so sad...

  • GoingGoingGone

    (((((((jwfacts and mrs. jwfacts)))))))

    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I miscarriage is so difficult, and even moreso if you feel like the clock is ticking.

    The callousness of the shunning policies never ceases to amaze me. It turns good, loving people into unfeeling robots.


  • MerryMagdalene

    My deepest condolences on both counts, facts. I know it hurts, and I hope you find some consolation here with your forum friends. (((((hugs)))))


  • Sparkplug

    jwfacts-I have waited quite a bit till I responded to this thread. It is such a painful subject. I wanted to let you know that I really do feel for you and people that have gone thru this. My thoughts are on your situation and as most people, I feel helpless, but I do want you to know that I am amongst all the people here who feel for you.

  • clovis

    I'm sorry and sad at the same time. The fact it upsets you shows you are a good person who would never do the same. Good luck and rise above it.

  • tweety

    Dear Paul and wife,

    This is a time that your family should of called you or at least have sent you and your wife a card. To go through such a loss will take time to heal....(speaking from experience.) I am so sorry for your loss!


  • Dimples

    My sincere condolences to the both of you.



  • Mary
    To be suddenly shut out from them has shocked me, as I can not believe that they are that sort of people. I am struggling to come to terms with what sort of people my family are.

    This is the exact effect that the Borganization hopes that shunning has on a person. They're hoping that you're so devastated and lonely that you'll come back just to have normal family relations again.

    What does it say about them; or is this barbaric religion so powerful that it can change a persons personality that much?

    It's not your family, it's the religion. Witnesses are totally brainwashed into believing that treating you like shit is "Jehovah's will", instead of seeing that it's really just the will of a dozen stinking old goats in New York desperate to hold on to their power. It just sickens me to see how the disfellowshipping breaks up families.

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your unborn child but you can certainly try again. My grandmother didn't have my dad till she was 46!!

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