I don't know what I was disfellowshipped for...they didn't tell me.
I, too, was visited by 3 elders years after I had faded away. I was too ignorant to know that this constituted a Judicial Committee and I was on trial. LOL Even though it was common knowledge that I was a heretic, believing that God was just as "female" as "male" and such, they had never bothered about me until after I was in a serious car accident and my JW mother took me in while I recuperated.
They didn't like that we were getting too close, I guess. Plus I had seperated from my husband who then divorced me and went back to the KH.
In accordance with our brief conversation, I assume they DFed me either for telling them, in response to their questions, that I did not believe the organization's faithful & discreet slave delusion or my assurance that my ex was scripturally free to re-marry.
~Merry (still in shock over reading the field service with elder bit)