I completely understand Puternut's decision. He has something now that he hasn't ever had. Peace of mind. Why do people try to prevent that from being accomplished?
Wow. That was an honest post. And in answer to your earlier thread, THAT is courage. And I don't begrudge his decision. I do wish he'd've given us a chance to work with him on it, brainstorm a bit, try to come up with another option.
It isn't fair to force our beliefs on other people, but it doesn't hurt to share them and try to learn from one another. One of my beliefs is that people don't live after they die. Under that belief system, Puternut's gone. He's not experiencing peace of mind, he's just gone. If he was truly so damaged that there was no hope for him to have happiness in his life again, then he did the right thing.
But how could he know? How could we know? Without that absolute knowledge, it seems like a reasonable bet to gamble a few extra months of anguish in the throes of depression and give your friends a chance to help you. The payoff is possibly years of happy life.
Take you, Andi. Think of all the pictures you'll take in the next ten years. Imagine the smiling families, gathered around your proofs, ooohing and ahhing over your work. Now -- take that away. All that potential happiness out there waiting in your future, taken away because your very-willing-to-be-leaned-on friends didn't get utilized. It's not about guilt -- "how can you take yourself away from all of us?!?" -- it's about your potential. So very much potential.
Ary's potential is gone. We need to preserve our collective potential.