***I used to shun a relative who left the JW's while I was still active. When I became disillusioned and left, I tried to apologize & repair the relationship, but irreparable damage had already been done. We are cordial to each other at family functions, but the warmth and love is just not the same.
Yup, me too. It has caused a whole generation (my three grandchildren 23, 18 & 13, through my DFed son)to be cold and distant and in the 23 year-old's case---rude and nasty. Too much time has passed where they were brought up with hate in their hearts towards me, never even having met me.
***Hmmm, I get all of your points, but unlike them, my love is unconditional, and I would make sure to tell my father that
That's admirable...but we have seen there THEIRS isn't. Many are bitter towards OUR behavior that affected them so badly.
***i've come to realize that me and my family have nothing in common. although it would be nice to know they are free of the org for their own sake, i have a feeling i would end up not looking forward to visits and finding excuses to avoid returning their phone calls. just like a 'normal' family.
I have found this to be true. There is just too much difference to "take up" where we left off.
I only have one still left in the WTS, and she has done and said some extremely nasty and hateful things that had no bearing on the WTS----she is simply a lying, mean-spirited and vindictive person that I want NOTHING to do with---EVER. I know what she is capable of, JW pioneer-elder's-wife or not, and the further distance between us is the better.
I will be gloating over whatever the big news is, and knowing that HER world will be shaken a bit for once. She has always maneuvered and manipulated things so she always came up smelling like a rose---and she ended up married to $$$$$ the 2nd time, expensive home, a pool, cruises and trips to Europe etc....and THIS news should (hopefully) knock some sense into her. Sadly, I will NOT be part of any "revelations" she may possibly have as a result. She and her arrogant elder husband (who wouldn't allow me or her Dad to be sent an invitation to their big KH wedding) will have to live with more than one mistake this time. She has deliberatley touched MY eyeball too damn many times.
Soooo, when this news does break---I WILL be smirking and gloating....I deserve SOMETHING for all the heartbreak she AND the WTS have gleefully heaped upon me!