Well here I go with my annual holiday stress thanks to my JW relatives............if you are wondering why I'm on this forum after not being a JW myself for so long, there's your explanation.
I realize they have their beliefs against the holidays but it is soooooooo inappropriate to subvert others' participation in holiday celebrations, isn't it? (rhetorical question there) I mean, if I did it to them they'd claim I was persecuting them! I have decided I am going to tell them to stop persecuting me! (exclamation points because I'm really mad)
Examples--my mother is playing her usual manipulation games, this time it happens to be with my guest list for a dinner party. Long story short, she told some lies so as to get me to have my dinner on a certain date which she knows is the same date some of the guests are not available to attend. Now it is too late to change it to a date when everyone is available; thus we will not be spending it together and yet another attempt at family bonding is avoided. What a great religion!
JW mother tries to take over the party by insisting I do not play holiday music or exchange gifts. I just say uh-huh and do whatever I please anyway. I am now going back through my decorations to see if there is any way I can put up more, just to piss her off. I bought some XMas cookie cutters so I can make really Christmasy cookies. Perhaps I will lead everyone in singing "O Holy Night" too, LOL.
Some of the non-jw relatives are so "harassed" (their word) by her, they decline my invitations for XMas Eve dinner and XMas morning brunch. (I tell them it is important to me, just ignore her, etc. but they don't--bad choice on their part but still inappropriate on my mother's part.) Of course she has no problem celebrating Easter and Thanksgiving because she does it at my siblings' house who are JW apologists.....so that makes it all ok.
Anyway.......I am now recalling things done as a JW. For example--my mother told my siblings to sit on Santa's lap, pull his beard off in front of the other kids and say they don't believe in Santa, and they did it--upset a bunch of kids in the mall. I recall other JWs telling their kids XMas lights are ugly and bad, and one in particular slapping her 1-yr-old's hand for cooing and pointing to the XMas lights. I remember another relative with a ubm trying to make the XMas tree fall over when the spouse wasn't looking. I have more examples but I'll stop.
More examples of JW inability to observe normal social etiquette/politeness. There is no point to my thread other than me venting. Thanks. :)