I'm so angry/been crying for hours

fullof???

I've been disassociated with anything that has to do w/JW's for almost 10 years. I was baptized at 15(way too young to understand what I was doing)and no longer agree with some of the "faith". My sister has 2 girls who are pretty much the reason I live. She has re-entered the whole JW life and recently got baptized. Now today she called me to tell me that because she took an oath to serve god and I willingly chose to leave(mind you I'm not disfellowshipped), she informed me that the elders had a meeting with her and told her that I'm way too involved in their lives and that they have to treat me as a disfellowshipped person, WHICH I'M NOT. In other words, I can no longer see or talk to them unless I decide to return to the faith.

My heart is torn apart. I can't even begin to imagine a day without speaking to them. I'm so angry right now with this situation. I haven't been involved with any other religion since I left and I'm a good person with good morals.

It pisses me off to think that they can have conversations with sinners and crackheads but not me just because I willingly left!!!

My sister explained that it's because I know about the "truth" and these worldly people don't.

I'm so heartbroken right now I can't even eat.

Can anybody explin to me the logic in this so I can prove my sister wrong? I'm their only aunt and am devoted to them.

Sassy

Even though you are not disfellowshiped, they may considered you disassociated, which brings about the same shunning and punishments..

for what it is worth, I am not officially dfd or da'd, but my mother won't have anything to do with me any more because I am not assocated with the JWs any more..

I know.. it hurts.. hopefully she will ease up and still do things with you any way..

I hate this cult

jgnat

Your stupid sister did not cut you off because it was LOGICAL. Therefore all the logical arguments you might use will have no effect.

Appealing to her EMOTIONS might work. Ask her what kind of effect this will have on her two little girls. Surely they will not respect a society that coldly cuts off relatives like that. For SURE I would tell your sister that her hard-hearted attitude has turned you off from the society for good. Wish her luck with her new friends. You might want to make up a care package for her and the girls, expressing your sincere love and care for them all. Advise them, however, that they CANNOT OPEN THE BOX unless they are resolved in their hearts to treat you as a full sister, no shunning.

Then leave her alone for up to six months, cold turkey. Let's see if the Kingdom Hall is as loving as you were.

BrendaCloutier

(((( Fullof?? )))) I am so very sorry for your loss. And all because of a high control group/cult.

Can anybody explin to me the logic in this so I can prove my sister wrong?

The problem is, there IS no LOGIC to this. Yes, they will have scriptures perverted to support their viewpoint, but there is no love, and no logic to it. It is part of the fear and guilt used to keep their "followers" in line. And even if there was something logical you could put to your sister, (Other's here can help with this) I'm sure she won't listen, nor will the elders.

What I question is just WHY the elders had a talk with her. She obvioulsly did nothing directly wrong. Was she "seen" with you? Were they spying?

By the way, WELCOME! There is lots of info here, and a great group of people, some very well versed in the BS of JWism.

Hugs

Brenda

Valis

she informed me that the elders had a meeting with her and told her that I'm way too involved in their lives and that they have to treat me as a disfellowshipped person

how do they know this?

orbison11

i do so understand how you feel...

i have 4 children who no longer have anything to do with me due to the shunning:( besides all of my friends i had and i have no family other than a distant wordly sister who i distanced due to my stand 20 yrs ago due to the wt......

something like this i would go to the media, possibly local, and see if they would do an article, possible under the religious section,,,,

with easter coming up, many are more tuned in to jesus and his works of love at this time,,

just a thought,,,this may work i tself out,,,how old are the children? an age to decide themselves? they will ask questions and maybe it may get them thinking about the love of god and jesus

take care

wendy

MerryMagdalene

I'm so sorry for your troubles. How heartbreaking. Wish I had something more helpful to offer you other than my empathy. I am sure someone else here will. Until then, welcome to the forum. Stay long, return often.

May I dub you "Full of Life, Love & Light"?

~Merry

GetBusyLiving

I disassociated myself only about 6 months ago and I'm sure my dad has been told by the elders to have less to do with me too. It really hurts.. I know how you feel. Give me a PM if you want to chat about it.

GBL

Dustin

Fullof, first just let me say that I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. It's complete bullshit for them to say that, especially since you haven't been df'd. I've never been very good at arguing my points with the elders. This is just another situation that proves them to be evil family wreckers of a religion.

I have nothing to offer other than to say I'm sorry, and I can understand your pain and frustration. Hopefully your family sees the foolishness of their decision. I wouldn't go talk to the elders though, unless you want to be disfellowshipped. They would do that just for spite, and because they could. I hope all turns out well in the end, and just wish to offer you moral support and condolences. I too have have been burnt by the JW religion, so I feel your pain and hope for a happy ending for you.

Dustin

Aude_Sapere

I'm sorry that you are in pain.

This is a good place for healing. Glad you stumbled upon us.

-Aude.

I'm so angry/been crying for hours

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