The internet is such an amazing frontier, isn't it?
Freedom of information at your fingertips. Free exchange of ideas with people from all over the world. Vast networks of support in times of illness and trouble for those who need it. Making friends from all over the world, perhaps even making plans to meet them someday.
We've all heard about identity thieves and how people can use your information to ruin your credit rating, phishing sites that get you to surrender your banking or credit card information under the guise of ensuring your account's security, and scam artists from Nigeria promising millions of dollars if you cooperate with their highly important and very wealthy (but unfortunately incarcerated with no access to his own money) benefactor and send them a certified cheque for $500 or $1000. We are educating ourselves, we are protecting ourselves from con artists. Good for us. We are smarter than them much of the time, yay for us.
What happens though when someone you've developed an online friendship with - a friendship that you entered in good faith and were honest with for your part - has not been as honest and forthright with you? How would you, as a person who is trustworthy and offers trust in return, know if someone was playing mindgames with you? What would make you suspicious? What kinds of things would start making you question the honesty of the person you've been involved with? I'm not necessarily talking about a romantic online relationship, just a supportive friendship that develops due to common interests. If there was no monetary consequence to you, would it matter that the person was essentially lying to you for all that time? Would it bother you that honest information about yourself that you freely gave, was exchanged for lies?
Has anyone here ever encountered a situation like this? How did you figure it out? What were the warning signs? How long did it take for you to figure out that you'd been played? Did you find out whether you were the only victim? Did you confront the other person? If you did, how did it go? If you didn't, did you terminate the friendship in some way?
It's important to talk about situations like this. They do happen. They have happened here on JWD in the past. What would make you start questioning someone's credibility here? How would you deal with it?