Found a nifty quote on Plastic.com:
| Sexy, Smart, Sane. Pick any Two. While this may appear to be a rant about women, what it really is is a bit of a hint for all the nice guys out there who want to get with one of a particular set of girls who want; * a challenge * an interesting partner * not boring sex Yes! I actually had a talk to one wench who was going nowhere with a fellow Nice-Guy. What was her reasoning for not wanting him? "I don't want a guy I can dominate too easily. Mr X, he's a really nice guy, and I like that...but I don't want to say to him "Lets go do something!" and always have him say "Sure honey!". I want a guy with backbone." Unfortunately, they equate being polite with being wussy, and being considerate with having no will of your own. This is the major disconnect between girls and nice guys. she also said; "I don't want anyone who is too boring. Look at him, he's a complete geek. Into Star Trek, comics, net gaming. I don't want to sit around at home watching him playing geeky sh*t, and then get a ten second f*ck in between matches on Starcraft." The lesson here is; mystery! Excitement! Challenge! Don't be too easy. There is something to be said for being an asshole. Firstly, they do want the drama, the soap-operatic angst they can all gossip about. But its also the challenge - the more they have to strive for something, the more valuable it is when possessed. Works for guys too. Nice guys just lack this ability to be intractable. Instead of being a worthwhile goal to achieve, get, possess and enjoy the constant challenge of wondering if he's sane or not...nice guys are boring and a sure bet. Sucks, because often they are anything but a sure bet or boring (just try interposing between a geek and his zergling rush). Its the same as guys not wanting those pale, scrawny, prudish women who, you would think, would never be up for a quick roll in the hay. Disingenuous (adj): wanting in noble candor or frankness; not frank or open; uncandid; unworthily or meanly artful. | |||
Do the ladies on this site agree with this? I can sorta see the point of this woman who is saying this - but then there is the conflicting point of view presented here:
So, who is right? Would you ladies rather date a complete idiot that gave them that special rush only badboys can, or a nice sensitive geek who will never quarrel with them? From my experiences, I've noted that the one thing that makes a girl feel sexy is sheer excitement - I can't even count how many times I've had really, really great, erm, rolls in the hay after after a "lover's quarrel". Seems those sort of things really get the blood going. Or as my father (a great source of advice) would often tell me:
Most woman would rather cry their eyes out over an asshole than be bored with a nice guy.
He has a point!!!!! Many, many women have told me that they hate a guy who dilly-daddles around on a date. Tip for guys: When you phone a woman about a date, tell her to meet you at a certain, neutral venue, such as a park, and then say that the place you are going is a surprise. Obviously, you'd want to do some field work with her first and find out what kind of foods she likes. Pick a nice, classy restaurant (not super expensive - you want to go Dutch, remember? And DISCUSS this "going Dutch" thing with her first, so she cannot complain if you only pay for your half of the meal. This is only fair to both parties), and take her there from the park, not telling her where you're going until you basically pull up in the parking lot.
What does this demonstrate to your special lady?
1. You know how to make decisions in a snap, apparently a great "manly" quality.
2. You are exciting.
Bonus points for carrying her into the restaurant in your rugged manly arms.
Now, notice that nowhere was anything tacky done like giving her a huge bunch of wilting roses or anything like that. Simple gestures like this are what I find are appreciated the most. If you go to great expense for a girl, more often than not it simply makes them feel uncomfortable, because they haven't done the same for you. Keep it real, keep it down low, and the ladies will love your ass!
Regards,
Dr. SYN!