Are there activities you 2 do together that will bring out her authentic personality? A hobby you both enjoyed in years past? Something she really would like to do but darn if it ain't on a meeting night or fs day? Plan for those days when you can and see when she is willing to skip out. The less time spent with jw's the better.
We have an unwritten/unspoken rule, we do not socialize with jw's or known jw apostates. Family, mutual non jw friends are all ok. We finally reached the point where it is absolutely pointless to discuss anything jw related and our home is much happier. No jw or so called apostate literature is ever lying about, the home is a neutral space. (I've never been one and he joined up quite a number of years ago now) We did not/do not know any jw's in our 'normal' life. I'm sure that makes it easier for us than when one mate leaves the borg. Wishing you peace.