i think ive taken the longest. I was brought up as a borg and didnt stop going until 4.5 yrs ago. Im in my mid 30s so i took my time. Like so many others have mentioned i still have nightmares about armageddon and feel guilty about even being on this forum. Im hoping that soon the emotional and mental scares will fade just not sure when it will happen though
quinah
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How long did it take you to leave the org?
by sandy ini was wondering how long it took for all of you to leave the org.
how active were you and for how long while knowing the "truth" was not the truth.
i ran into an old friend last week.
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Watchtower = Pharisees
by drwtsn32 inthe wts always talks about how wrong it was for the pharisees to make an endless number of rules.
but the wts is guilty of the same thing.
you can't have a beard... you can't watch rated r movies... you must report your field service activity... you cannot go to costume parties... you can have some blood fractions but not whole blood... you can't read any stuff that is against our opinion... yadda yadda yadda.. my mom (an active jw) argues that theses are not rules but only guidelines.
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quinah
Where did the beard rule come from anyway, what the deal on that
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Drawing Close to Our Father...
by confuzcious ineven though i'm not going to meetings, i still have a tremendous need to draw closer to god.
since leaving, i do feel closer.
three things i've been doing...
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quinah
Its been a while since I prayed, but I do agree that after a while u just go through the motions like praying before every meal. I used to find it really hard to try and vary my prayers, and not be repetitive, but just how many ways can u say thanx for food. That is one thing I used to feel guilty about, as if my relationship with Jehovah was not strong enough because some days I just couldn`t find much different to say at meal times. At least that is one thing I no longer have to struggle with
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!
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quinah
very interested to see liquidskys comment only another 2.5 yrs to go then and I may be classed as disassociated! I also agree with nicolaou that in some sense it would allow me just to " get on with my life" without having to constantly look over my shoulder. I cant believe how underhanded the elders can be in trying to trick you or catch u off guard and say u no longer feel like a JW. One things for sure, no one is getting in here for a visit ever!
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!
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quinah
rub-a-dub thanx for the advice, I`ll keep low for a while yet , so no wild xmas parties for me then!
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!
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quinah
jh lol the idea of a phone no to see if youre disfellowshipped has cracked me up . There ought to be an automated service giving ratings for elders from dire to waste of space!
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!
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quinah
Thanx for the reply, my story is non too dissimilar to many you may have heard before. After many years of seeing hypocrisy in the congregation me and my husband both became very disillusioned with the "truth" and stopped going to the meetings. I am struggling with coming to terms with not being a witness, even though wild horses would not drag be back to the hall. I have been brought up in the truth from the year dot and had been in it for 20 yrs plus. The problem we are anticipating is that if we do anything classed as "wrong" in the elders eyes, my in-laws still attend meetings, and it would make life very difficult if we were disfellowshipped and they wouldnt be allowed to talk to us would they?
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!
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quinah
recently heard it on another forum, do you know if you can be disfellowshipped for any certain time after you stop going to meetings, not that i am planning a massive sin or anything?
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quinah
hi I`m new on here tonight, hope I get to know ya all soon and have a chinwag (good natter if u dont understand English slang)
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new rules concerning disfellowshipping/ disassociating after you have stopp
by quinah inhi everyone i have just joined this forum and wondered if anyone else has heard of the rule that if you are inactive, which i have been for the last 4-5 years, that they have a new rule of you either become active again or you have to disassociate yourself, or they can disfellowship you?
is this correct, and does anyone know if there is a time limit that you can be disfellowshipped say up to 5 years after you stop going to meetings?
please help!