I think it can be done. Where you get into trouble is when you start confiding your marital problems to the other person. I have seen so many affairs start that way.
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Help settle a debate. Internet relationships...
by esw1966 ina stay at home dad posted on craig's list that he was looking for platonic email correspondance with a lady, someone to talk about life with, insights into relationships, a reason to turn on the computer in the morning et cetera....... my fiance occasionally finds herself seeking relationships with select people online and getting into soulful conversations with them.
she feels that people can be their truest selves in these moments.
to share the quirks of life with random fellow americans is somehow thrilling to her.
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Dog Owners: Is your pet a Killer?
by restrangled inone of my dobermans today, dragged a tarp off a pile of wood we had covered.
sure enough there was a large pink nose sticking out of the pile.
he went in and dragged out an oppossum which must have weighed fifteen pounds.
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My brother has always had pitt bulls. They have killed more than their fair share of cats. They have even dragged the dead animals in his house.
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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My taste in men has changed over the years. When I was young I wanted the bad boys and as I have gotten older I want more maturity.
One thing that has never changed is I want someone who has a sense of humor, self-confidence, and non smoker. It's also would not hurt if he is a work alcoholic like me.
It's kind of funny because the guy I am involved with now really has no sense of humor and is very conservative. I absolutely love going to comedy clubs. The more crude and raunchy the better. He does not go for that stuff at all. He thinks those shows are repulsive. I am not going to end the relationship because of it. I just wish he would loosen up a bit when it comes to that because I would go to a comedy club everyday if I could.
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there is apparently rampant apostacy in my ex kh
by unbeliever inmy friend called and told me there were 3 announcements last night at the kh saying x, x, & x are no longer jw's.
they all da'd themselves.
all 3 sent letters out to a select group of friends and family before they gave their letters to the elders.
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I don't want to get too specific but Northeastern OK.
If they are browsing this site I hope they PM me.
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there is apparently rampant apostacy in my ex kh
by unbeliever inmy friend called and told me there were 3 announcements last night at the kh saying x, x, & x are no longer jw's.
they all da'd themselves.
all 3 sent letters out to a select group of friends and family before they gave their letters to the elders.
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Oh and she told me that a lot of people were crying before, during, and after the meeting. That is really so sad. They should be crying tears of joy they escaped that crazy religion. Instead they are crying because they think their loved ones will die at armageddon.
P.S. Last night had the highest attendance of any Thursday night meeting in months. Did the local dubs come out of their warm cozy homes to see the action???
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there is apparently rampant apostacy in my ex kh
by unbeliever inmy friend called and told me there were 3 announcements last night at the kh saying x, x, & x are no longer jw's.
they all da'd themselves.
all 3 sent letters out to a select group of friends and family before they gave their letters to the elders.
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My friend called and told me there were 3 announcements last night at the KH saying x, x, & x are no longer JW's. They all DA'd themselves. All 3 sent letters out to a select group of friends and family before they gave their letters to the elders. I wish I could say I knew who these people are but I don't. I have not attended in over 10 years. All I can say is hooray for them. From what my friend tells me the elders are going crazy trying to find everyone who got letters and might have been influenced. A local needs talk was given on apostacy the same night. They also think there could be others in the congregation who have apostate thoughts as well. Since I quit attending attendance has dropped by over 50%. There are not many members left. I am dying to ask my stepfather who is an elder in that congregation more details but I know he won't tell me. Besides I know I could not hold my glee in.
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Suicide is a VERY bad thing.....
by lonelysheep inthat is the conclusion i've come to.
up until then, and because of my own depressed feelings, i have felt differently.
this changed for me last night, though.
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lonely,
I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts.
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divorce question
by depressed inmy soon to be ex-husband's father is the presiding overseer of the congregation and his entire family is very spiritual - including my husband's sister and her husband who serve in gilead.. to make a long story short, my husband and i used to serve in bethel but eventually left.
we moved around the nyc area where we both took on full time jobs, pursued our four year degrees, and led pretty successful lives.
i left the organization, because i was tired of gossip, etc and half of my family was disfellowshipped.
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depressed,
I should reprase my statement. One of these days they will realize the truth about him. They can only stay in denial for so long. According to their own rules your husband is not free to remarry much less bring home a new woman to mommy and daddy. He's painted himself into quite a corner. My parents had been divorced for years and my mom tried to get my dad to admit to adultary in WRITING so she could marry a good for nothing peice of shit elder. Dad had not remarried and even though dad dated a lot of women she never had any actual proof of adultary. She had to jump through a lot of hoops to be able to remarry. The whole thing was ridiclous. Hey but its their rules. Let your ex live with them. If he is no longer a witness at heart he will not be able to live by those silly rules and screw up.
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divorce question
by depressed inmy soon to be ex-husband's father is the presiding overseer of the congregation and his entire family is very spiritual - including my husband's sister and her husband who serve in gilead.. to make a long story short, my husband and i used to serve in bethel but eventually left.
we moved around the nyc area where we both took on full time jobs, pursued our four year degrees, and led pretty successful lives.
i left the organization, because i was tired of gossip, etc and half of my family was disfellowshipped.
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unbeliever
The truth about your H will come out sooner or later. I work in family law and what you did is quite common. Believe me I have had clients come in the office ranting and raving about being exposed. They scream sue, sue, sue. Some clients have even been fired or forced to resign from their jobs bec. of an office affair. The best thing you can do is concentrate on getting your life together and leave your ex in the past. I hope the new year brings you some happiness.
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JC's - I think I would go...
by Justice-One ini was thinking about a comment i made on another thread about how i would feel if my true feelings and life came to the attention of the overseers.
(i really like the term overseers better, as in my mind i can see them cracking a whip.
) i mentioned that i thought i would feel like the old man in the movie water world, that was sitting in the small boat on top of the oil in the super tanker.
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unbeliever
I think if you are emotionally vulnerable it's a very bad idea to go. If you are done with the org, want to record it, post it on the net for laughs I say go for it.