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  Anyone here from Central Ohio?

  by Aunty in

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  i'm now in ca, but grew up in central ohio.

  wanted to see if there's anyone i know on this board.

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  Lancaster poster...My Grandfather went to the Lancaster congregation. East or West, I don't remember. He's dead but you may remember him, Clyde Sparks (Clyde and Dorthy Sparks). How about Tedd and Chris Bowman? Do you know them? We hung out together when we were kids.
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  Anyone here from Central Ohio?

  by Aunty in

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  i'm now in ca, but grew up in central ohio.

  wanted to see if there's anyone i know on this board.

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  WhatNow

  I'm an occasional lurker here, from Columbus. I still go to meetings but am df'd (almost 2 yrs now). Was 'born' in the truth. West side (Hilliard) of Columbus. Am as confused as anyone raised in the truth only to find out it's not as perfect as the Witnesses think.
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  Which bible Translation is best?

  by NikL in

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  this one is for those on this board that continue to read the bible.

  i know there are many on here that dont.

  i still do, though not very often, and i dont accept everything written as straight from the mouth of god.. one thing i discovered after leaving the witnesses was that the bible is actually an interesting document and not some terribly difficult tome that must be explained every step of the way.

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  I'm going on two years df'd now. Have started back attending meetings like any good 'christian'--on Sundays only. (I figure why go through the week when they're teaching how to go door-to-door and I'm not ALLOWED)

  Anyhow, I've been taking my NIV bible to meetings. Yep, right there in front of all those good little J-dubs I look up (Boeran) all their scriptures in my NIV! My cousin who goes to the same hall commented to my 10 year old daughter "I'm confused about your mom's bible."

  It really throws them for a loop when you don't look like them. I was under the impression that the Bible was inspired by God and that we can still learn from any translation. I just like to compare the reading.
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  Finding Jobs? How 'bout Spouses?

  by WhatNow in

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  if we can find (or help find) people jobs, can we play match-maker, too?

  i think being raised as a 'witness' puts me in a unique 'class' (aka 'co-dependent ha ha).

  now that i'm 41 (divorced, white, professional, female [mom]) i have discovered many things about why i have become the person i am.

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  WhatNow

  Okay, I admit it. I'm retarded when it comes to "unlocking my e-mail", Picosito. How?

  Now to answer (in backward order) you other question(s). I am DF'd for 1 1/2 years (second time in 12 years) for same thing--guess I'm a horny wench. Either that or I keep hooking up with alcoholics who abuse me emotionally and psychologically (waah, waah) so, I go lookin' for love in other places.

  I do (call me 'crazy') still attend meetings. Guess I'm still trying to prove to myself if my whole past was a waste or not, being raised in the truth. I liken opening my eyes to the 'truth', to finding out I was adopted! I believed all of my life one way and only just discovered (by finding this website and actually thinking about what was said with my own mind) that it was all (or mostly)a lie!

  I'm weary and don't want to tell my whole story (way too much to type) but I got shafted in the judicial committee with their decision to DF me (I actually told THEM [confessed] that I had slept with a guy at work while going through my second divorce from my non-believing alcoholic husband.) They knew my situation, they had stopped by to talk to him several times during our 10 year marriage. They knew I was in trouble trying to deal with a non-believer and raise my kids in the 'truth', but they offered little help.

  I dutifully drug my two kids (a third one was old enough to decide for himself not to go) to meetings (the one's I could make) for over a year. Then I asked to be re-instated. Mind you, I DID take advantage of the guy from work (for sex) a few times (yum!)--after all I WAS disfellowshipped. They (elders on committee) said I couldn't be reinstated because (yes, they actually said this...) I hadn't attended enough meetings!

  When I walked out of that meeting I was bitter. I knew they had flipped a switch in me. My attitude had changed! I was no longer the humble little slutty sister they kept taking advantage of. I didn't go back to meetings for about 6 months.

  I've recently began going back to meeting (Sunday only), but I'm not buying into the party line. I'm still trying to make up my mind what I want. I figure it can't hurt to go on Sundays, and this time LISTEN to what's being drolled out to the masses. I'm skeptical about everything at meetings now but have a unique advantage--They can't talk to me to sway my opinion. No fake sweetness to cloud the issues. It helps. They speak to my children (girl 10 yrs, boy 15 yrs) but I'm invisible. They're fanatical about NOT speaking to me. How 'loving' huh?

  I also take a different Bible translation with me. Whenever they quote scriptures or read scriptures, I have the kids look them up in the NWT and I have another (not Borg approved) translation that I read from and make my notes. Wonder what the R&F think of that? I can't be the person I used to be--THEY changed that.

  Now, I'm a young looking (blond hair, green eyes, 135 lbs, 5' 3") 41 year old (get mistaken for 30+ frequently--good genes, no wrinkles), with three children I love buy recognize that they will not always be there (they grow up and move away). I'm willing to put forth the effort it takes to have a long, lasting, healthy relationship with someone who has similar interests as I. Thought this board would be a good place to start. In fact, I think there should be a forum for matchmaking here! Hey, Simon...How about it?

  Gosh, I said I didn't want to tell my whole story but I ended up telling a lot of it. That's enough for now.

  Still looking!

  WhatNow
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  Finding Jobs? How 'bout Spouses?

  by WhatNow in

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  if we can find (or help find) people jobs, can we play match-maker, too?

  i think being raised as a 'witness' puts me in a unique 'class' (aka 'co-dependent ha ha).

  now that i'm 41 (divorced, white, professional, female [mom]) i have discovered many things about why i have become the person i am.

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  I've heard the statistics on these on-line romances. They're quite astounding. But I just want someone to hold at night...okay, I want a bit more than that!
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  Finding Jobs? How 'bout Spouses?

  by WhatNow in

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  if we can find (or help find) people jobs, can we play match-maker, too?

  i think being raised as a 'witness' puts me in a unique 'class' (aka 'co-dependent ha ha).

  now that i'm 41 (divorced, white, professional, female [mom]) i have discovered many things about why i have become the person i am.

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  WhatNow

  Well, fellows! Looks like I'm setting my standards a bit too high, huh?
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  Finding Jobs? How 'bout Spouses?

  by WhatNow in

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  if we can find (or help find) people jobs, can we play match-maker, too?

  i think being raised as a 'witness' puts me in a unique 'class' (aka 'co-dependent ha ha).

  now that i'm 41 (divorced, white, professional, female [mom]) i have discovered many things about why i have become the person i am.

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  WhatNow

  If we can find (or help find) people jobs, can we play Match-maker, too? I think being raised as a 'witness' puts me in a unique 'class' (aka 'co-dependent ha ha). Now that I'm 41 (Divorced, White, Professional, Female [mom]) I have discovered many things about why I have become the person I am. I think others raised in (or around) the 'truth' can relate.

  How about it? Are there any mature, kind, single, emotionally and economically stable men out there? I'm looking!
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  Dateline NBC JW Sexual Abuse Story Coming Soon!

  by mikepence in

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  for details, see http://xjwnews.com.

  peace,.

  mike pence.

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  WhatNow

  I don't mean to be a wet blanket, Chicken Little, but haven't you been saying "the story's coming" "the story's coming" for months now?
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  I want it back!!!

  by ashitaka in

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  the jw's medicated my innocence with the 'reality' of armageddon.

  i want innocence back, dammit!!!.

  ashi.

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  Geez...was Shawn Colvin a witness? (ha ha)
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  Embarrassing JW Parents-How 'bout U?

  by ashitaka in

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  so, what horrible or just plain silly thing have you guys experienced under the thumb of jw parents?.

  i'll relate one-.

  there was a time the 7th grade had won a contest for something.

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  WhatNow

  When I was a senior in High School, I was voted onto the homecoming queen ballot. It was quite an honor for a quiet little J-dub who was never used to any kind of attention...who's mother never hugged her, told her she was pretty, or said "I love you".

  When I found out that my fellow class mates had voted me along with a few other of the pretty and popular girls, I was on cloud nine. I went home and said something to my dad. My mom was out of town at some friends' house. When she came home that weekend and found out, she demanded that I go right into school on Monday (or she would) and tell the counselor that I didn't want to be a part of the whole homecoming thing. She made me feel terrible, as if I was the one who had done something wrong. I had a heck of a time trying to explain to the school why I had to be removed from the ballot and not have an option of being voted homecoming queen.

  Many of my class mates asked me why my name wasn't on the second ballot and I had to reitirate my story again and again. Of course I couldn't simply blame my mom. No, I had to take the high road and all of the 'blame'.

  It was quite a blow to my ego not to mention embarassing. My goodness, it wasn't even anything of my doing. Much of my life I have been told by many people that I'm pretty, but because of all of the negative reinforcement when I was young, I never believed it.

  My "payback" for all of this negativity?

  I now have a daughter. She's 10 years old. There's hardly a day that goes by that I don't tell her I love her and how beautiful she is. I am so blessed to have her in my life and I'm determined that she grows up with the confidence that she is beautiful both inside and out.

  My mom? She's still a cold-hearted J-Dub, not speaking to me, of course (I'm DF'd). Never could please her. And Daddy just follows her trail, no mind of his own. She's missing out on her grandchildren, (my daughter and her two brothers 15 and 20) but not because I hold them back...it's simply because she hasn't changed. Her standards are too high for ANYONE to meet.

  Moral of this story: We can't control our past, but we can control our future. Only YOU can break the 'cycle' of [mental, physical or emotional] abuse.