Posts by WeatherLover

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

WeatherLover

I have been looking at the surface pressure charts myself today because we have in the British Isles an interesting pattern with a south flowing jet stream and very large high pressure anticyclone(1050mb) over Western Siberia and Scandinavia blocking the westerly Atlantic systems. A situation which characterises an Arctic freeze by drawing in the continental cold originating in Siberia and similar to the epic 1962/3 winter. Damn it, I find weather interesting too!

Have you had much cold this winter? Here it has been mostly warm, the lowest temperature was back in early January at -6C (22F). We've had a lot of highs in the 20-25C (68-77F) range lately.

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

WeatherLover

I am still planning for college, in fact I'm taking the ACT on April 8.

I've gotten some conflicting advice about talking to my aunt. She was df'ed years ago, and she came back to meetings just long enough to be reinstated, then for the most part quit going. Now she attends most memorials, and the occasional assembly/convention, but that's it. I think she only attends to keep the family happy. She has a "worldly" boyfriend, speaks to a df'ed family member, and is encouraging her kids to go to college. I really don't think she believes any of it anymore, but I could be wrong.

Perhaps when I'm at her house, I could hint at the subject and see what happens without coming right out and saying it.

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New to site...let me intro myself

by LarryCope in

first, i've been out of the organization for 20 years this very year!

i was baptized in 1979 and attended one of the lancaster ohio congregations.

realizing i was gay, i left and after being in the columbus gay community for 6 months, decided bar hopping and cruising was not my cup o' tea.i decided to return in late '90 and was reinstated in '91.

WeatherLover

Also, it looks like only 3.8% of Americans identify as LGBT. (Although it's a self reported statistic so it may be a little higher in actuality.) http://www.gallup.com/poll/183383/americans-greatly-overestimate-percent-gay-lesbian.aspx

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New to site...let me intro myself

by LarryCope in

first, i've been out of the organization for 20 years this very year!

i was baptized in 1979 and attended one of the lancaster ohio congregations.

realizing i was gay, i left and after being in the columbus gay community for 6 months, decided bar hopping and cruising was not my cup o' tea.i decided to return in late '90 and was reinstated in '91.

WeatherLover

Welcome! I'm also not leaving due to my sexuality. I simply no longer believe in this religion! I only know of one gay person who used to be in our hall, he was df'ed and I believe he is now living with his BF.

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Homeskoold Kidz Raiz Ur Hand

by Wild_Thing in

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who else was homeschooled?

what was your experience with it?.

i was one of the few that i know that actually finished.

WeatherLover

I was homeschooled, and I finished as well. I never was really gung-ho about pioneering until just before and after getting baptized, which happened when I was 15. A few months after baptism I auxiliary pioneered. I planned to do it on a continuous basis, but I learned TTATT a few months later. I think public school would have been a better option for me because I wasn't always motivated enough to do my schoolwork. I did do a lot of learning on the side about things that interested me, but I am weaker in certain areas and I hope it won't hurt me too much in college. Three of my cousins pioneered through most of high school, and only one of them got their diploma.

I think that homeschooling does work for some people. But JWs shouldn't do it, because it becomes an excuse to make secular schooling a low priority and to make "spiritual education" the focus.

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Hi I'm new to the site

by Raque Invierno in

hi everyone, i've just registered and thought i might introduce myself and tell my experience.

my name's raquel.. i was born into a jw family.

i started leading a double life around 14y/o and got caught drinking by another sister when i was 15 and saw that as my opportunity to quit the panthomime and stopped going to the meetings.

WeatherLover

Welcome! I'm new here too.

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2017 Circuit Assembly: Lesbians at school demonstration

by darkspilver in

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steve2: is there some way this can be presented so that it is crystal clear what was actually in the demonstrations and what was added?

i guess some will think it should be obvious - but this is where misunderstandings arise because we end up wrongly attributing something to jw organization that was never said.. circuit assembly theme: maintain love for jehovah!.

note to speaker: warmly encourage young ones to prove their friendship with jehovah by observing his commandments and defending his standards.

WeatherLover

Wow. I had a recent encounter with JW homophobia.

My sister was over and she was going to watch a movie with us. I wanted to watch "The Imitation Game" but she said that she didn't want to watch that because it's about a gay man.

You can get df'ed for gay sex, but you can also get df'ed for smoking. Now how many movies has she watched where the protagonist smokes? (A lot, I'm sure.) It's a double standard.

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

WeatherLover

Steve2-Thanks!

Since you like my avatar, here is a bigger version!

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

jw
friends

i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

WeatherLover

Thanks for all the replies!

I understand that its up to my family to decide whether they associate with me or not, but I can't blame them because they are also victims. I blame it on the religion itself, the idea that holds them captive.

I'm not 100% sure about my sexuality, I did like a girl once. But when I'm fantasizing, I'm mostly thinking about guys.

Regarding my name, I enjoy reading about the weather in different places and I find weather in general very interesting. I may even major in meteorology in college.

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

jw
friends

i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

WeatherLover

Hello everyone!

I'm a 4th generation JW. I started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late October/early November 2014. I don't know how exactly it happened. I remember I had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: I realized that I would be guilty of confirmation bias if I didn't look at the other side. So I googled something along the lines of "Do Jehovah's Witnesses have the truth?" I looked at several apostate sites (including this one) and it wasn't long before I no longer believed in the religion. All of this happened about 7 months after I was baptized.

Anyway, I've been faking since then, and several times I've tried to decide how to leave. Several months back I decided that I couldn't hurt my family like that and that I would fake it for the rest of my life until I (hopefully) believed it again, I would take up pioneering and maybe even serve where the need was greater. After a couple months of that mindset I realized that I couldn't force myself to believe it. I am overly empathetic when it comes to not upsetting my family, I really can't stand the thought of bringing my mom to tears.

But what is right is to be myself, and to stop preaching a message that I don't agree with. I also want to go to college, so I plan to take the ACT. I'm going to my aunt's house in early March and I'm going to talk to her about my situation. (she's inactive and I'm almost certain she doesn't believe it anymore.) I still really don't want to hurt my family, and I wish they would understand. It's also hard because I still live with my parents and my mom really doesn't want me to move out.

Also I think I'm gay (or maybe bi), but that is more of a recent thing. (Probably because I had refused to seriously consider it until last month.) I'll stop there for now.