I was never counseled..
But when I was a young mother of three I did a sister's ironing to pay for the gas she used picking me up and taking me to meetings and taking me out in service..a brother found out and counseled her for letting me do that. That he said was like charging me to do somthing that should be coming from the heart. Paying for gas was a option, not a requirement. Letting me iron to pay for it was wrong. I found out later that it was another sister that told on her..she told the brothers this sister was taking advantage of me. It just so happened this sister that told on me, I also did her ironing but she was paying me for it. A lot more than the cost of a tank of gas..so she was right!.
Don't even ask about being uninvited to the anniversary party.
Snoozy