I think I have only really been shunned one time that I can remember. That was when I was disassociated and hubby was not regular and the grown kids had all went their way..
JW Hubby's mom and dad were having a surprise anniversary party thrown for them by the people at their KH (they were both witnesses). Hubby's sister in NY decided that it was not a good idea for me to come and so consulted one of the brothers up there to go along with her decision. She called my hubby and uninvited me..said I may stumble someone if I come to the party..
My hubby and the grown kids and their families and non jw aunts and uncles and cousins would still be going..even tho they had studied for years before leaving the religion they were never baptised.
Since I had disassociated myself I would be the only one that would not be welcome.
What was funny was I had received a invitation with my name on it a few days earlier as it seems no one at their hall had any problem with me going as I knew many of them from working on my JW MIL's farm and helping them.
She was the only one that thought I may stumble someone..
I might add that my hubby and the kids all refused to go if I couldn't..which surprised me.
When we finally went up to his mom and dad's farm they asked why we didn't come..hubby told them. They just said 'Oh" and proceeded to tell us how nice it was and they had never had any kind of party like that before..then showed us some pictures and we went on about our business like it was no biggy..
But it left a big impression on me and I haven't talked to them since hubby passed away.