they dont want a mature woman secure in her own thoughts.
t-badu,thoughts??? -- you can not imagine how important a firm, young female is to men, no matter their age, but particularly older, but viril ones. Evolution at work. Mind control? yeah, matrons like to control each other. males like the glory of their youth re-lived. with none of the hang-ups of being a teenager.
Life is cruel to "single sisters of a certain age group", and in the grip of the second law of thermodynamics. (increase of disorder)