i personally find that when you’ve been around toxic people long enough, either in a family environment or as part of a cult or a highly controlling church, (or worse, both!
), you tend to get a very twisted view of your own identity and also human nature in general.. in a religious context, you may end up feeling that you are a “lowly worm” and that in general, people can’t be trusted.
since all you’ve known of relationships has been painful, complex and tiresome, it can give you the impression that this is the norm and that’s all you can expect .
Oh FAD I was with you until you started talking about God. I can't accept that he sent his son to be tortured to death for me. I don't want it, I didn't ask for it.
The Romans tortured so many people to death, theirs was a reign of terror. They used torture deaths as a public spectacle to frighten onlookers and keep them in line. To equate that with love is an abomination.
I understand that ex-cultists need to build self esteem and self love but this is not the way.
A few years ago I took my daughter to Venice and lake Garda and had the opportunity to go on a trip to the Dolomites. I didn't go because of worrying about money but could kick myself since then because they are so beautiful. Always take the opportunity to travel, it may not come again.
after all these years, it seems to me that people do not properly take note of what happened on this date in 2001. for some, it’s like nothing major happened.
for me it is a day of reflection..
That's not likely to happen Minimus, terrorism hasn't gone away. We don't need special days to remind us do we? It's the reason I and many others are loathe to visit Muslim countries. It has affected all out lives, the whole world is aware of the danger.
after all these years, it seems to me that people do not properly take note of what happened on this date in 2001. for some, it’s like nothing major happened.
for me it is a day of reflection..
My heart goes out to all those who lost loved ones that day. I know all too well what it means to lose a partner suddenly and without warning. The public outpouring of grief and support may have helped at the time but I do wonder what it's like now that many years have passed. Surely they don't want reminding of that pain every year.
I think it may be all very well for onlookers who want to have a sentimental wallow but for those who were actually involved, who lost loved ones and colleagues, it may be making it hard for them to move on.
born into a strong jw family in the early 80s.
my father died when i was 4 and that left a huge emotional scar on my tender mind.
with my mother, i went to live with family members and was sexually abused between 4 and 10. he was an ms but when elders later found out, all that happened was he got his privileges removed.
Thanks for sharing your experience and you must realise now you were not responsible for the sexual abuse you suffered as a very small child. I am aware it's not always that easy so perhaps some counselling would help?
I can identify with people emotionally blackmailing you about seeing your father in the resurrection. Absolutely despicable.
Stick around, many here have been through similar abuse.
before, i was thinking, this whole thing with the character the writing department has must be a coincidence.
they must use other names?.
nope.
A mother is in labour ALONE with her 6 year old boy and she tells him to fill the basin with hot water in the bathroom...so the boy can help his mother have a wash??? (Then he's "monitoring the labour" ?!!)
Yeah Diog, plenty of hot water and towels. This writer's been watching too many Westerns.
i was wondering how many of us have switched to a vegetarian or vegan diet and why.
i'm not doing it but have friends who do.
lovely people and seem very healthy.
True LV101. Two weeks ago I was sitting in a little town in the Bavarian alps enjoying a big dressed salad with just a few excellent pieces of fried chicken on top and they were quite enough.
Unusual for the Bavarians because they're big meat eaters. There was German sausage on the BBQ all day which was very popular. Not my cup of tea.
i was wondering how many of us have switched to a vegetarian or vegan diet and why.
i'm not doing it but have friends who do.
lovely people and seem very healthy.
The last few I treated myself too were just a chore to eat. It's just too much meat
Pete I know what you mean, if I go out for a meal and have chicken they give me so much. All that chewing! So hard to get down.
housebound by weather.
been watching flash mobs.
what a wonderful thing they are..
Flash mops are good, clean floors without scratching.
i was wondering how many of us have switched to a vegetarian or vegan diet and why.
i'm not doing it but have friends who do.
lovely people and seem very healthy.
Stopped eating red meat about 12 years ago because it's contraindicated in arthritis and my family get really bad arthritis. My aunt had seven hip replacement operations, first one at 47.
So far hardly a twinge and I'm 61. Not vegetarian, I eat fish and very occasionally chicken.
