Posts by Xandria

My cousin had one, it was very cute, very high maintance and very fierce.. she died from a snake bite. She was a city dog..who moved to the country. She wasn't ready for the wildlife and was trying to protect my cousin. She is buried in a place of honor.

My cousin would joke with me about cross breeding:

Just don't mix the dog with a bulldog.. you will have a bull shitzu.

X.

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My Brother's Funeral (Part One)

by doodle-v in

some of you may remember that last year my 21 year old brother died from leukimia.

the day after i posted about it here .

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/63039/1.ashx.

Xandria

((Doodle-v)):

I am sorry for your loss, compounded with dealing with the mentally draining issue of bearing with more. I can understand the delay in you mentally taking this all out for examination. It is much easier dealing with it, in sections or a little at a time, due to it being so overwhelming.

X.

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What a crapy day!!

by Dawn in

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friends

ever have one of those days where you should have just gotten back into bed and waited for tomorrow?

i had one of those today!.

1) overslept and was rushed to get ready for work and get my daughter to school, then.

Xandria

Dawn,

Too bad there isn't a Ben and Jerry's button on Simon's Board. I would definately send a pint.

X.

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New Website About Child Abuse

by Corvin in

i am putting together a website geared toward non-sexual jw child abuse.

i am in the midst of getting clinical assistance from mental healthcare professionals and many others are wanting to get on board.

the link to the first page is below.

Xandria

I don't see one in the inbox. Ok.. this is strange.. I look at the Inbox # and it says 0 new messages.. then I clicked and there was a message. Glitch? or what? But I got it.

X.

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~Show us your PC wallpaper~

by FlyingHighNow in

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here's mine: (it's set on a red background).

Xandria

The Peacock Feather one is mine. The one I am considering is Shark's Tail and the last one reminds me of Brummie.

X

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End of the World Almost Came Yesterday

by Satanus in

isn't it great that there wasn't a big hullabaloo about it before hand?

it was an asteroid that passed by earth yesterday.

it came as close as 4 times the distance to the moon, which is fairly close, galactically speaking.

Xandria

By Toutatis' or is it Toutatis's Balls or is that Ball? Of the I'm to confused to swear right, right now.

X. lol

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New Website About Child Abuse

by Corvin in

i am putting together a website geared toward non-sexual jw child abuse.

i am in the midst of getting clinical assistance from mental healthcare professionals and many others are wanting to get on board.

the link to the first page is below.

Xandria

What about the sense of denial that JW parents? have over "discipline"? (I use the term loosely, because what they do, as discipline~ cannot be described as loving discipline.)

Perhaps, that aspect of abuse can be brought out too. Abusers need to know that they are being abusive, so they can recognize the signs and find appropriate behaviors to use.

Many of these parents don't see it as wrong, because their peers support their views. It is almost a type of enabling, to the point that it blinds them to all other aspects of the abuses, which their children are faced with from them daily. They block or don?t want to consider other ways or approaches, because of the absolute control they demand.

A year, before our mother passed on from Cancer. I confronted her in a calm manner, about the physical abuses. She vehemently denied it happening and refused to take responsibility for her actions. Then when she was finally cornered with out any way out, the excuses came. It was my fault; I was trying to twist the situation around, that I was a terrible child for xyz reason, that I made her lose control (when it was her decision), etc.

It was clear she did not want to take responsibility for what had happened. No one likes to be seen as the ?bad guy or girl?, so not to look that way or ?justify? their actions and/or anger. They make excuses, shift blame or block the truth of their actions. I do not know if they cannot face the truth of what they have done, because it is painful to them or because they realize they have done just as their parents have done to them. The horror of it.. that after all, they have become just like the person who victimized them.

What is sad, is they have to power to break cycles to over come past and move forward with a happy life. Again it comes back to choices.

To me, what is even worse, that there isn?t real closure for my siblings. They did not get the opportunity to freely express them-selves and begin to find a type of healing from that release, for many reasons beyond control. To some victims of abuse, it can be empowering to voice their feelings to their tormentors. Either it be from writing, face to face, by poetry, or a phone call, etc.

By letting their abuser know it is not all right what they did and that they are accountable for their own actions. The child is moving forward to healing and freedom from the shame they felt, as being powerless to fight against someone, who as a parent should have protected them.

It is a choice to channel anger into constructive or destructive behaviors. It is apparent to me now, that our mother did not know how to express her anger and even disciplined in anger. But what pain it caused, then. To survive and learn to overcome that is a victory.

People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive?not aggressive?manner is the healthiest way to express anger. She did not have the tools to correctly express herself or what she wanted.

Violence became a way to demand complete obedience and even made us dependant on her for our moods, our thoughts, even our emotions. So it doesn?t help us grown into independent free thinking people, as they claim. It is for our own good, it is for us to know right from wrong, etc. It is their perverted and convoluted version of right and wrong, based on the abuser?s whim, mood and desires.

I strongly believe no child should have to protect themselves from their parents. But if they have to, they should have advocates and a strong support group.

Something to help victims out is something I can support.

Regards,

X.

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Survivors Network Against Abuse by Priests (SNAP) Updates

by blondie in

this group has joined hands with silentlambs in the fight against religious sexual abuse.

there are by similarities in their fights if there is no sl member nearby, please contact them for support and help (though keep contacting kim norris re legal issues).. http://www.connpost.com/cda/article/print/0,1674,96%257e3750%257e2428179,00.html.

victims talk about priest sex abuse.

Xandria

I had the opportunity to meet a few of the Local SNAP Representatives at the SL Vigil. They are a awesome organization.

X.